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Mothers!

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Podmog · 14/12/2004 09:46

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ChristmasBOOZA · 14/12/2004 09:55

No you are not Podmog. I've never really had any help from my Mum. She's always too busy and it makes me wonder where I fit on her priorities. Help from my MIL is very much on her own terms which means its isn't always that helpful IYSWIM. But she has been giving my SIL tons of help with her 9 week old. But I'm supposed to be able to cope with two children and working and the constant stream of colds and tummy upsets that are affecting us all since 6mo DD started nursery.

Sorry I've gone off on a rant of my own on your thread. But yes it would be nice if your Mum could help you when you're struggling.

snowmeltsonthebeach · 14/12/2004 09:56

That's cos your mum thinks you can cope because you are a girl and thinks your brother can't as he is a boy (plus she probably feels sorry that he has a wife that dares to have 'meetings') hope you feel better soon.....

coppertop · 14/12/2004 10:05

It's very unfair to help one child and not the other. I agree that it's probably because you're expected to cope while poor helpless brother needs immediate assistance. My single and childless brother has always had more far more practical help than I have, even though I have 2 autistic boys to look after.

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Podmog · 14/12/2004 10:08

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MeerkatsUnite · 14/12/2004 14:26

Podmog,

No its not just you and you are not being ungrateful. You are entitled to some moral support. My parents are very similar to yours (MIL and co aren't very good either) in that they will drop everything when it comes to helping out my single with no dependents brother but when it comes to me its a different matter - no is their answer.

I never ask them for any help nowadays unless I'm truly in a fix health wise. Then I get a newspaper through my letterbox.

tallulah · 14/12/2004 18:29

Podmog, my sympathies. I rang my mum in tears once when my DD (then 3) was driving me demented & I just couldn't cope with her any more (also had 2x DSs aged 2 & baby). She couldn't manage to come to help me because she was 'far too busy" (ceramics class was mentioned....!). I never asked again.

ItllBeLonelymumThisChristmas · 14/12/2004 18:39

I too have been here with my mother. I suppose it is nice that she has such an active life although she is in her 70's, but I wish society was a bit more like it was in the old days when families helped each other out more.

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Podmog · 15/12/2004 07:47

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kinderbobsleigh · 15/12/2004 07:54

Fancy taking a pram into a nursery. Whatever next!

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