Lies and secrets

[TD7]

How would you deal with a partner that keeps secrets and lies

Get rid of him

That’s what I am thinking …trust has gone

Agree, fuck him off and start again. Once they start lying it's done.

Exactly, as soon as trust is lost, the relationship is over. How many times has secrets and lies killed a relationship? Every time. You don't need it in your life.

By ending it.

The ones who have form for lying and deception never change in my experience. You’ll always drive yourself mad wondering what’s true and what’s not. If there’s no trust there’s no point in being with them.

I know and it’s not the first time .>when I catch him in a lie he says I was going to tell you …yeah right just another lie

You’re so right I am at that point now what’s true what’s lies ..lies I deserve better …and that’s only a snippet of what i go through

Your right I know that

When caught out they’ll only ever admit to what they think you already know and then you’ll only get a minimised or half version of the truth usually.

You do deserve better. Living with a compulsive liar is a very unpleasant and unhappy existence.

Thankyou I couldn’t have put it better myself …I feel like such an idiot I’ve been through so much with him I always get let down .>he’s such a liar ..lies about anything

After he lies he tries to smooth things over with a present I’m sick of it no trust and it’s not attractive I just feel like my feelings have gone …he’s hit me in the past disrespected me so much .>I’m now getting help as I suffer anxiety but been on medication for a couple of weeks I’m seeing things a lot clearer now I think I want out

I’m seeing things a lot clearer now I think I want out

Good for you!

Everyone else is right. When you are with a liar, you have no idea when they are telling the truth or not.

You remember that story about the house that was built on the rocks vs the oe built on the sand? Living with a load is like the house that is built on sand - vulnerable, without security, likely to collapse at any second.

DT7. Hope you have good friend/s and family to support you. Your MN family are here. I'm not normally a contributor but feel your pain. I detest liars.
Stay strong and believe in yourself. Lots of hugs.

Apologies, got your name wrong DT7 xx

He'll, I did it again. Truest sorry TD7, still offering support to you.

Awww thankyou so much x

Thankyou for your support I love this and it makes me feel stronger xx

He’s hit you before?

Will you be safe when you end it? You need to get out of this relationship, and fast.

5 years ago split my eye open ….I’m not scared of him anymore tbh yes I will be safe Ty for asking …enough is enough time to get me back