Hi ive been married nearly 14 years. The last 3 to 4 years haven't been good. We have two children both with additional needs. The past few months have been very stressful. We have had couple therapy which helped at first then it ended up been mainly about our children. I have mental health problems which I was honest about when I met my husband. In January I developed physical problems and am I'm constant pain. A week ago a van reversed into me and I am now in further pain with my back and its set me back months. I'm now under the crisis team.
Yesterday I found out that my husband is fed up of caring for me.
Also that for years his mum (who doesn't live near us but to a year ago did for a few years and up to 2 years ago I had a good relationship with) has been saying that my husband should have met someone else who didn't have mental health problems
She has been saying it anytime he mentions I'm struggling or if there are problems with our children. He has been saying to her that he knew about my mental health and loves me.
Ii feel like my world has been turned upside down. He thinks it's acceptable to voice these views. Up to a couple of years ago she was like a mum to me she even said years ago I was like a daughter to her. I don't speak to my parents, I had an awful child and they continued to not care properly about me and hardly bothered with my children.
The mortgage is only in my husband name as my credit rating was bad when he bought the house. My credit is a bit better but still poor.
His wages go into his bank account and he pays the mortgage and bills. I reply on disability benefits and children's dla to get by, to pay my bills, towards the food. Clothing for me any my children, their birthday and Xmas presents. Also give a bit to my husband each month towards bills. I've spend 2 years at uni doing a masters snd are meant to be starting my job soon. I won't be really better off as due to my health and children's appointments and needs I'm going to be working part time.