I think my husband is a master manipulater. I'm unhappy, feel trapped and very unhappy.
Examples:
Offering to do something and then complaining about having to have done it afterwards, even though I offered to do what ever the task was myself
Overules my decisions with the children, claims our 3 year old is only naughty with me and not him.
Saying he can't talk to me about some thing because of the was I react. I genuinely am confused by this....an example being: we forgot to pay a joint bill and when I told me I said 'oh bloody hell' in a tone of 'aren't we daft for forgetting/how annoying'. Not in anyway angry etc and he says "this is why I can never tell you stuff"..... genuinely made to question myself
Claiming I never support him, no matter what I do isn't good enough.
Suggests that I'm neuro-divergent or autistic because I'm not touchy feely with him or that I'm don't read queues from him and I have sensory issues (especially misophonia)
Says I gaslight him.
Purposefully making me feel guilty....I'm away for a night or weekend for example (very rarely) and mentions constantly how he's having to look after the kids all weekend.
Claims he never gets any time to himself, when I offer to take kids out for the day or for him to go off and do something he just says "we'll see".
Constantly asks questions....where are you, how long will you be, how much did that cost
These are just a few of many but mainly that he can do no wrong and that no matter what criticism he offers it is ok because he's entitled to feel that way.....if it's the other way around then 'I'm crazy/off my head'
I'm so much happier when I'm not around him but don't know how to leave. We have joint finances apart from some money he's got in a bank that his dad gave him (I don't know how much) but manipulates me with it saying he has to use it for bills etc but won't tell me specifics, shared mortgage and two children under 10. Been married for 15 years if that makes any difference.
I am stuck and need help.