My DH is an alcoholic, but goes to work and functions during the day, comes home drinks 8 -10 cans of lager average, drinks from 12ish on his days off. We are living together but have separated, hopefully he will be out soon. When drunk he can be verbally vicious and nasty to me. Our DCs love him and are extremely worried about him. They want him to get help , but I told them you can't force someone and he needs to want help.
Our eldest (early teen) has recently confided in me that his dad told them he was suicidal ( this is a roundabout he goes on every few months) I told them maybe us splitting up would drive his dad to get better but they think he will drink himself to death.
The thing is, I am not callous but I don't care anymore. He has numbed me to his pain. He has weaponised his mental health to manipulate me in the past.
But how do I guide my DCs through this without harming them. How do I stop them worrying about their dad?