Help, due to take my elderly mother on holiday. How do I survive the weekend.
My mother is nearly 80 with mobility problems. Younger sister who mother is carer for has down syndrome, mobility issues and start of dementia.
Have always gone on annual holiday to holiday park with them, usually with husband.
It has got harder over the years and in reality they need 1 2 1 carers each so have tried to avoid doing it recently.
Obvious it may be sisters last holiday, mother has laid on the guilt and I have agreed to take them with my nieces who are 9 and 11. Husband refuses to come as its too much drama. Have to agree with him.
Mother cant see sister although in her forties is an old woman and insists on her trying to keep up with nieces although obvious she is tired and no longer able to do so. She pushes her to front of entertainment and everything becomes about them. Even now she is demanding we leave at 6am to get parking near accommodation despite not knowing where the accommodation will be. They both have mobility scooter and wheelchair so distance isn't a problem. Mother self meditates on alcohol which really annoys me. I also don't feel I have a close relationship with her. She invested all her emotions into younger sister that there was never really anything left for me and other sister so we have always been on the periphery. Dreading spending the weekend with them. Husband and other sister know that they thrive on drama and being centre of attention so sensibly are keeping out of it. Wish it was just me and the nieces. How do I survive the weekend which I feel was a bad idea to sort but was trying to do the right thing.