Anxiety and missing abuser

[LostandHealing]

2 weeks out of a painful and DA relationship. Why do I miss them, why do i fear falling back in to the cycle if we make contact. Why do i feel tired all the time and what can i do to make me remember why I left?

2 weeks is very early days

You need to look after yourself - your body and mind have been through too much.
So get plenty of rest and eat well

Take small amounts of time to remember the shit you have been through- maybe write it down so you do t have to go over it time and again. Any possibility of going back or reducing the impact of what you have been through - have a peep at your notes

Give yourself permission to do everything that is good for you - pamper yourself, go for walks and get plenty of rest
You need this to stay strong and to build your new life

Wishing you all the best - and well done for getting out of an abusive relationship

Thank you, reinforcing the thoughts really help. The sad thing is we love them but god knows why. yes it's daunting looking at beginning again but the cyclic abuse and drawn into arguments and negativity seem to be gone.
This forum is a wonderful place for help and reading others stories.
some men like me are more empathic and gentle than most but we still have capacity to say hurtful things.
After 12 years of meeting the wrong people and I guess trying to fix them, I don't really want any more SOs in my life. Just my family and children and teh support of groups like this.

I think keeping busy is the thing to do. If you’re busy you don’t think about them. If you don’t work perhaps you could volunteer during the day somewhere part of the week?

yes, sadly i had a bad accident last year and did alot of voluteering and the accident seemed to incite more abuse and lack of care. I will get back to new voluteering. But I've been unable to walk to a year or so and this didn't help the situation. She seemed to be disappointed when then money and holidays went... i think and hope she's met someone who can give her a happy life.
Realtionships suck, I don't think i want another