Am I to be offended

[Lookonbright]

Hi I have been dating a guy for approximately 5 months it has been going well so I thought, last night he said to me, in a general conversation about relationships “I feel sad I might not find the love of my life”. I did not say anything at the time. However reflecting on it today it is making me feel pretty shit! Like I thought we were building something. Ok there are no guarantees and it’s a pretty new relationship we are exclusive etc. Am I just overthinking it or was that an insult?

I would see it as useful information. He (1) is the kind of person who believes in ‘the one’ and (2) doesn’t see you as it.

Were you falling for him?

I couldn't waste my time on someone so romantically inarticulate.

I would leave him to it.
You need someone who makes you feel like an asset, like it's a privilege to have you in their life. Not someone whose ok for now.

I probably in the moment would have commented something like "then where do you see this heading?" I would have definitely made him explain, and quite frankly probably would still make him do so after the fact.

But to say that to the person you are dating...I would see it as him being stupid or lacking emotional intelligence. Or he's dropping hints that he doesn't see you as that person otherwise why say it.

Wow, what a dolt. End it.

Wow well he’s certainly told you how he feels hasn’t he! What an arse. I could never get past that comment so yeah I’d bin him.

Nailed it.

Yes falling for him and he knows it. You guys are right seriously ending it today. Clearly the more I think about it he has zero respect for my feelings. Thanks everyone kind of sad x

See, I'd have laughed at him and said "I'm already here". Maybe it's just happening faster for you than it is for him and that scares him.

Sorry OP, that’s really disappointing. But it’ll leave space for someone who knows how lucky he is, and also is in possession of basic tact.

End it - he is showing you who he is. Insensitive & cowardly because he knows you are not 'the love of his life' but has continued to date you for 5 months anyway.

Scratch that, he isn't romantically inarticulate he is just a cruel bastard.
Get rid and good luck op.

Mine once told me he ‘can’t see this going anywhere.’ We’ve now been married 28 years.
Your’s could just be wrong.

Sorry op, he's more Prince Chow Mein than Prince Charming.

Time to ditch him and find a tastier dish.

Whatever he meant by that, he's not for you

I think he's hinting that he wants to break up

He is hoping you will pick up on this and end the relationship (so he doesn't have to)

Nah, sack this one off. I once had a guy tell me that one of his ex gf was perfect for him and that was it for me!

What an thoughtless and rude comment. I couldn't be with someone who was so lacking in any kind of tact or sensitivity. Dump asap, you can definitely do better!

I asked him about it today and he said who knows who will be the love of your life when you meet someone it has to grow! Does not get how or why I am upset. I Could not be bothered to explain ended it there and then.

Well done. There is someone much better for you than him.

Well done OP. What a prique.