Want divorce. Scared and pregnant.

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Married over 15 years with two children ages 7 and 9. Verbally abusive husband in front of children. I want to separate/divorce. Found out I'm pregnant yesterday and not told him yet. Scared he'll be cross and blame me because I came off the pill around 8 months ago. How can I split from him when pregnant? He has more savings and pays for most bills, despite me having employment but not earning much. I've just landed myself a decent job and have been there for 4 weeks so now have a good income, but half what he earns. Don't know what to do

Scared he'll be cross and blame me because I came off the pill around 8 months ago.

so was it a joint decision for you to come off the pill?

Of course you can leave if you are pg, women leave abusive husbands/partners while pg all the time.

but then if you have just found out, then you have options.

Do you have any way of knowing how pregnant you are? If you are early enough along you don’t have to continue with this pregnancy.

Great. Came off the pill and now be ongoing another child into this shit show.

Personally I would have an abortion and not tell him.

No, it was not a joint decision as it's my body. He knew I came off the pill about 6 months ago. Well, I told him but whether he listened or not is another story. So regardless of that situation, how do people start divorcé proceedings? I literally have no idea. I know he'll refuse to sell or move out of the house.

Your choice if you want to keep the baby or not, if I was you I wouldn't tell him if I decided to have an abortion, if you decide to keep it, then let him know that the decision is made.

Re divorce, see a lawyer who specialises in family law, and again, don't tell your husband beforehand.

You're married. Half is yours

Are you still in your probationary period at your new job?

Could they sack you if they'd found out about your pregnancy?

In general (and I've never been in the position to have to think about whether or not to terminate a pregnancy, so I might be off here), I think the child's father should know what you're planning to do... it's your body, definitely and ultimately you need to decide as if you divorce, you will probably be with the baby most of the time.
I just think it's child too.

It's a really tricky situation

I take it from what you've said so far that you wanted this baby as you don't mention taking any precautions?

Depending on how pg you are and how long you have been employed you may only be entitled to government mat pay not employer may pay so bear that in mind aswell OP