If you have a highly anxious relative, how do you manage?

[OHVanessaShanessaJenkins]

Anxiety is bloody horrendous for sufferers.
For those surrounding the anxious person it is also very very difficult.

I have a relative who goes from one anxiety situation to the next. Is currently needing diazepam to cope with a situation. There is absolutely no reasoning or sensibility getting through.
It is catastrophic. (GP prescribed diazepam to cope with the last event)

I wish I had the tools to help and deal with it.
I was wondering, what tips do you have to share so that I can do better.
Just to add, they point blank refuse any form of counselling so expert help is out of the question.

Feel so helpless and frustrated.

I'm a hardass with people who refuse to help themselves. I refuse to have her around.

It is attention seeking. And it works she gets your attention. It's entirely manipulative. If an adult child can't even mention going on a road trip that's an extreme reaction. She has control over you.

I have a large no of highly anxious ppl on my family. Mental health issues for one thing or another seem to run in my family. I'm not immune in that I have anxiety and depression myself so to a certain extent although infuriating for those around I do "get" it to a large degree. However, this year I've really started to notice how a lot of our family dynamics are tied up in anxiety and how this affects my own mood when I am around certain people. I'm a major empath so it's taken a lot of time to event admit to myself I don't like how I feel when I've spent time around it incessantly and its affect on my own mental health which I am more reserved about. As another poster said as much as I really do deeply care about my family I have had to take steps to somewhat detach from certain situations as there is quite literally always some kind of issue going on with some of my close relatives. Sumx this is making myself less available on the phone WhatsApp etc, sometimes it's making a conscious effor to avoid social plans with them for a few weeks so I can get some respite from it

Self care (immense ) and boundaries

that’s all you can do x