He said he’d been flirting with another woman

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I don’t know if I am being immature or overreacting. My boyfriend messaged me to tell me that he’d received a special deal on something because ‘he’d flirted with the woman’.

I just don’t know why someone would say this to their SO. When I said I found what he said a bit disappointing and disrespectful he accused me of being jealous.

basically, am I being an arsehole to be a bit turned off by this please?

I wouldn't like this at all, I'd be wondering how often he flirted with other women

I doubt he seriously flirted that would be creepy, he had a conversation, and make it out to be more than it was to make you feel insecure.

He is trying to make you feel jealous and insecure.

Don't fall for his nonsense.

Apart from anything it shows what a gullible idiot he is salespeople are trained to deal with fools like him.

There is a woman somewhere tonight laughing about the twit who chatted her up thinking he was getting a great deal by doing so when in reality they always offer a discount to close the deal.

Surely flirting without the intention of taking any action is a normal part of social interaction?

In that context it wouldn’t bother me a bit.

Doesn’t bother me a bit.
I know my DH flirts as part of his job, if it gets him more jobs all the better (he’s self employed).
ive seen him flirt in front of me with a waitress in a packed restaurant where we were worried about running out of time. If it works it works! I’m pretty pragmatic about these things. I’ve been known to flirt sometimes for fun, I’m not so good at the functional flirting.
the only issue is any of the women think the flirting means something - but that’s their problem really.

@LeedsSetting

He probably shared some harmless back and forth banter with a sales representative. The other person probably experiences this on a regular basis and likely couldn't or wouldn't remember your partner from one of the many egotistical men with whom she deals

In your case , I would pat him on the head and say " clever boy" much the same as I would say to my dog when he fetches a ball and brings it over.

I would never consider this as respectful or disrespectful. It would be such a non starter for me.

It wouldn’t bother me personally but I get that a lot of people might not like it.

I wouldn't like this one bit.
I'm big on boundaries and respect. I'd call him out on this.

I wouldn't like it. Not because I'm jealous, but because its precisely the sort of thing people say to try and make their partners feel jealous/insecure. Basically the subtext here is to tell you how desirable he is because women fancy him enough to give him money off stuff. So don't get complacent because he's in demand. The fact he immediately accused you of jealousy confirms this as he's projecting on to you the reaction he hoped for. Its very manipulative.

Thanks everyone. Seems like there’s a range of views.

Well I suppose it depends on the definition of 'flirt'. I've been accused of flirting when I thought I was just animatedly chatting.

It could be banter or it could be suggestive and borderline sexual. Which was it? One is ok and one is not!

I would have taken it as a joke