Hi, I'm in need of some advice and definately some support.
I had a four year relationship with ex and the last year of it he moved in with me.
I asked him to move out 12months ago and he finally went in May/June. I was sleeping on the sofa interim. Anyway, he only went when I finally flipped my lid and went beserk, not something I'm proud of, but it did the job, kind of.
After that we had a period of cooling off but still quite friendly, mostly down to familiarity I think.
However, he still continued to be the person I didnt want to live with and I came to realise didn't want to have a relationship with either.
My problem seems to have been that I havent been direct enough in letting him know. I have completely by my behaviour,;not returning calls, texts, emails , I thought.
And it was hard for me to be in a position. He is very difficult to communicate with, he cant have a straight conversation, will be polite to my face and only say things he wants to in writing, in a situation which he doesnt have to listen to my response to.
I have all the time refused to respond to written communication and give him the attention in this way.
Sorry this is long,. He is now becoming abusive (occassionally) and decided I have a new partner to help him feel better. [I havent]
I have been really angered recently and retaliated by writing to him, and telling him and emailing saying I want him to stop.
However he hasn't. I dont want to prosecute him but dont know what else to do.
He is carrying on without taking a blind bit of notice, as usual.
I only gave it to him formally on Sunday, how long should I wait before taking more action?