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Shot about to hit the fan

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whatthefuckisnext · 29/07/2023 17:35

My daughter plans to speak to a member of school staff on Monday about her dad giving her and her friends cannabis. This is on top of him treating her really shittily, before I kicked him out, emotional abuse, aggressive behaviour, etc. He has previous for possession with intent from 15 years ago, not sure of that would be taken into account or not, but it could mean big trouble and it'll also mean he'll go mental at her. She just wants rid of him but I do worry she's not prepared for the shitstorm coming. My other daughter is a different personality and thinks the sun shines out his arse, mainly because he's manipulated her to believe this. It's going to make her hate me and her sister, but we need to get her away from him, dd1 says he's been giving her weed too, she's 12. Has anyone been through similar? Don't even know what I'm asking I'm just bricking it for what's to come. I'll back her up 100%, wish I had the balls to report him years ago. She's so brave.

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whatthefuckisnext · 29/07/2023 17:35

Shit about to hit the fan, that is!

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Shinyandnew1 · 29/07/2023 17:37

That sounds stressful!

Missing the point here, but where are you that schools are open on Monday?

BorneoBound · 29/07/2023 17:39

Your ex has been giving your two daughters weed, one of whom is 12yo. Wtf is your daughter the one to set wheels in motion to rectify this? Why aren't you doing anything?

ArcaneWireless · 29/07/2023 17:42

And you aren’t reporting this because…?

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 29/07/2023 17:43

Why aren't you sorting this???

Neverseenbefore · 29/07/2023 17:58

Why haven’t you acted on this already? Why are you leaving it to your children to sort out?

whatthefuckisnext · 29/07/2023 20:59

I only found out today about the weed for sure, as she told me. I suspected the little one was being corrupted by him and called social work but she's happy there and there's no evidence he's doing anything harmful if she doesn't admit it, which she never would. It seems black and white but it's not when you're in it. If I had evidence myself I'd be raining a shower of shit on him but he's a clever, manipulative bastard. No point doing anything if it's only going to give him info to work smarter

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NightShiftDrama · 29/07/2023 21:12

So school is open?

Dombasle · 29/07/2023 21:18

Are you in the U.K.?

NightShiftDrama · 29/07/2023 21:20

How can you NOT have known both your kids had been smoking weed? They are so young!!

You would smell it on them!

Gazelda · 29/07/2023 21:39

How old are your daughters? How old is the one who's been using drugs?

Don't you think you need to report this yourself? Otherwise I imagine a teacher would be thinking you're either complicit or unbothered. Neither would reflect well on you.

whatthefuckisnext · 29/07/2023 21:43

School know she was doing it and have a worker engaged with her, she's 14. None of us knew it was him giving her it. Dd2 is 12 and with him most of the time as he's got her completely co-dependent on him so I don't see her every day.

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whatthefuckisnext · 29/07/2023 21:43

School is closed but the support worker isn't term time

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