Do you ever wonder if you may have perhaps married the wrong person?

[FattyChick]

I certainly do. Been married 9 years and feel like we are on a different wavelength. Got nothing in common anymore. I couldn't leave because DCs are too young and I have nowhere to go.

Two nights ago i accidently woke DH up (tripped over something) and he went beserk, calling me a stupid f**ing C (cant bring myself to even type the c word), and woke the DCs up . I was furious. I am struggling to even like him let alone love him. He did apologise the next day but he can be so verbally agressive sometimes. i keep dreaming of winning the lottery so I can leave.

fattychick - i wish you luck. dh and i are similar to you and yours. his juevenile sense of humour piss me off too. esp in front of dd who is 10yo. my dh's 'aggression'/bad temper are largely due to hangovers. chin up my dear. What goes around comes around

That sounds an awful situation Fatty. Sounds a lot like my H too. I think that for the sake of your children you need to get some advice as to what your options are. Some CAB`s have a legal person go in on certain days, it may be worth checking on the web to see if one locally has that service. Im not going to advise you to see a solicitor just yet, because sometimes they just make matters worse, but if you do go down that route there are plenty who offer a free half hour for initial advice. My only advice there would be to take a friend with you, & do not agree to or sign anything without looking it over first. If they mention Legal Aid tell them its only initial advice youre after at the mo, & they can check your eligibility for that later. I got my fingers burned by a corrupt solicitor who signed me up for legal aid without my knowledge when I wasnt entitled, opening up a whole can of worms.
Good luck whatever you do, & keep us posted.