I’ve been seeing this guy for 7 months and I’ve known him a long time.
things were really good at the beginning now the communication is painful, he’ll say things ‘like let me know when you are free as I’m around more than you’ so I tell him then he doesn’t actually do anything with the information?. I’ve been really blatant about it this week, suggested days and things to do so it’s pretty obvious he’s not bothered. He goes quiet so I just stop messaging too.
What’s slightly confusingly is he did arrange to meet earlier this week and it did happen. I think this is why I hold on because there seems to be glimmers of hope.
bottom line is I’m finding the lack of effort so irritating and I’ve already discussed it with him, we have said we aren’t dating other people etc but I don’t feel like I’m dating him either! We spend about 3 hours a week together it’s hardly a relationship (not for sex FYI)
so I’m not sure whether to just text and say this isn’t working and I want to start dating other people (I imagine he’ll try and make it work then temporarily) give it more time as things will be more settled in a couple of weeks (there are lots of changes happening at the moment) or just block him so we don’t keep the pattern going.
I feel sad about it as I do have feelings for him which he knows but it’s not doing my self esteem or mental health any good.