My partner of 11 years and father of our daughter, aged one, was acting strangely recently and I questioned him and he said the way he lives me had changed. He loves me like a family member not like a lover. He is depressed and was abused and neglected by his parents which he has started to have therapy for this year. He says things like he is so bored of eating he doesn’t want to eat. He is tired to the extreme, like he can’t stay awake. He doesn’t brush his teeth or wash sufficiently. He hasn’t cut his hair in a long time. He is clearly having a hard time.
He is also however spending a night or two a week sleeping away from home. He works mega long hours and sometimes says he’s too tired to drive home. He never calls or messages me when he is staying away unless in the car/outside before going in. He has also been working abroad for a few months. I have started to wonder if he is cheating… or perhaps emotionally involved with someone else.
He says he isn’t sure what he wants. He initially said he thinks we should still be together and live like we’re friends. I thought that was a pants idea. Either we’rea couple or not. He said he feels like he needs time to figure out who he is. I just don’t get him.