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Date happy to see me in casual basics

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Nousese · 28/07/2023 19:35

Hello,

Before i posted about a guy i was dating for 2 months and 2 weeks. We starting to have sex in the last 3 weeks. We started kissing around 3 weeks after we met. Since we met we were seeing each other 3 times a week. Since the beginning he always text me nice things. I was amazing, perfect, saying we very compatible. He was still texting me by his own initiative until one day before he told me he thought it was better to stop seeing each other for while and to keep in touch. I was so shocked as since the beginning he told me i was his girlfriend and even sent me pictures and videos of his daughter and was making plans for us doing things together in the future.Three weeks after the split I couldn't resist and I texted him saying something like: i hope he was well and i was sad he didn't want to see me any more and wishing him happiness. He immediately texted me: Yes we did have some good times! "Just did not feel I had enough feelings for you long term.
Happy to see you now and again on a casual basis if you want? " Then, on the same day he asked if i was free to see him a couple of days after. I am not from the uk so I would like to know what does he mean with that? Thanks

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HipHipWhoRay · 28/07/2023 19:37

Block him! Basically wanted to sleep with you, and now casual hook ups. He’s probably in a relationship. This isn’t what decent people do here either!

caerdydd12 · 28/07/2023 19:38

It means he's happy to keep sleeping with you but doesn't want to be with you, basically.

Callyem · 28/07/2023 19:39

He told you - there's no long term potential so for your own sake, you need to cut contact.

JobzaGoodun · 28/07/2023 19:41

I thought this was going to be about a bloke with a penchant for women in a Primark t shirt and joggers.

He's offering to see for hook ups on a casual, no strings basis. Which is fine if that suits you, but it doesn't sound like it would.

SoundTheSirens · 28/07/2023 19:44

I thought this was going to be about a bloke with a penchant for women in a Primark t shirt and joggers.

Me too, but I think it’s an autocorrect from “on casual basis”.

Yeah he wants you lined up as a booty call OP. Block him and move on!

Nousese · 28/07/2023 19:44

Oh, thanks. I thought it could mean just friends

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WunWun · 28/07/2023 19:46

No, that definitely doesn't mean friends. He means casual sex.

Wishimaywishimight · 28/07/2023 19:46

Pretty obvious I think. He is willing to shag you from time to time but is not interested enough to have a relationship with you.

WunWun · 28/07/2023 19:47

The abrupt end suggests he never left dating apps and has met someone else.

This is why I am done with dating apps, 99% this.

Nousese · 28/07/2023 19:48

Thanks, off course I don't want that. I have feelings for him unfortunately for me. I would like to meet him face to face and tell him horrible things. Telling him and i am not that type of woman.

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Nousese · 28/07/2023 19:49

Yeah, he was still in tinder while was with me

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Nousese · 28/07/2023 19:51

He is 56 and i am 50. I just thought a man at that age would be serious.

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MissHarrietBede · 28/07/2023 20:14

Age doesn't stop this kind of behaviour and attitude unfortunately.

Block and delete.

Best of luck in finding a decent man.

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