Do people ever have a time

[BlastedPimples]

when they wake up and think, "What the hell have I done? What the hell have I done to my family? My children? How did I end up here?"

I'm taking about those who have affairs, run off with the ow/om, those who have been verbally and physically abusive to their families/spouses.

Do they just continue with on their new merry lives without a care?

I have wondered this about my ex , he abandoned our daughter when she was 3 months old , for the ow he last saw her when she was 5 , she is now 24.

My exh did. I think.

He had 6 months of therapy because he felt so awful and thought leaving made him a shit dad. He was angry with me because I'd made his life unbearable through emotional abuse and pushed him to it.

Therapy made him realise that he'd actually been the abusive one and that me refusing to comply didn't actually make me abusive!

He called to apologise! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@BlueSlate did you believe his apology?

IME, there can be no apology

But the thought of my dcs refusing to see or even speak to me would be torture. And yet stbexh asks me why they don't want contact as if he genuinely doesn't understand years of bullying and terrorising us all never happened.

Yes. It was a genuine apology. He thought he was doing the right thing in trying to 'correct' me. The therapist made him see I was fine as I was. He just wasn't attracted to me, and that was fine, but had no right to try and change me 🤷🏻‍♀️

He accepted responsibility for it.