Long term single

[SinglePringle4eva]

After coming out of a long term relationship five years ago due to serial infidelity I am sometimes sad that I’ve not even got close to meeting anyone else. How do people do it? I’m not young, I’m far from slim and not massively attractive so no one likely to approach me IRL. Tried Hinge etc but no interest. Tried Tinder and Bumble but if you don’t send nudes or want to hook up only it’s a wasteland.

Do I just admit that I’m single forever?

5 years single since divorce and only just starting to think would be nice to have someone romantically in my life

my children, friends, exercise, holidays, work and home - all give me what I need to feel like my life is full and fun.

but now I think maybe something else may be good. But if not forthcoming, I wouldn’t feel sad

I’ve been single two years I agree it’s awful my ex also cheated but was also abusive I’m on OkCupid and it’s awful I’ve just started and feel like giving up there either boring or only want sex the amount of messages I’ve been sent asking if I give bl*w jobs is horrendous how old are you if you don’t mind me asking ?

And my early impressions of bumble is not as you describe at all. A handful of really nice coffee dates and dinner. Not any chemistry but certainly no nude pics!

I feel the same OP
Most men treat dating apps like hook up sites
It’s not just you x

Weflewinstyle how old you? I get many likes on bumble, unlike Hinge, but most are awful. Maybe it’s our age.

47

42

I hear you OP. I’m in my 50’s own home reasonably attractive decent figure very friendly and sociable but I’ve been single nearly 4 years and not gone close to meets my anyone either in RL or OLD.

I’ve asked my male friends for their honest opinions and they are surprised that I don’t get far more attention.

I get lots of likes on OLD, a decent amount of matches but they don’t go anywhere.

'Not massively attractive' there is lots you can do to boost your confidence

Get your colours done, wear them, lose weight, lift weights, learn to cook healthy meals, redecorate your home, limit alcohol if you drink - treat yourself like a princess. This is what I'm trying to do now to increase my confidence before I date again and it's working well slowly but surely. The best is lifting weights I feel so proud I've just recently begun for first time but impressed with myself

Weflewinstyle we need your tips! Which apps/sites are you on?

I was single for 12yrs before a colleague asked
me out last year. Granted I hadn’t gone looking, or been on OLD, but he was the first person who actually asked me out, and the first person I’ve fancied who worked in the same building as me. I’m 47 too, soon, and I’m not seeing him at the moment, though it’s not 100% over. But to be honest I think if it doesn’t work out with him I’ll go back to long term single as I was perfectly happy. I’ve got lots of friends, have a good social life. I don’t need a man, though I must admit the sex was amazing and now I’m missing sex whereas before I didn’t care!

Hinge and bumble

I did no stages photos whatsoever and was very honest in my profile about loving being outside, exercise, not much of a drinker, happy in my life, professional and enjoy work.

absolutely nothing received inappropriate and all nice chats and coffees etc

Third date tomorrow with a lovely man!

Weflewinstyle we sound similar!

good for you - enjoy tomorrow 😊