OH phone

[Piggyplate]

So I just happened upon some old "videos" of OH and an ex (wasn't snooping a genuine mistake) it was on the cloud. I don't know if he has them on his phone.

I'm OKish with porn I'll probably think it's a bit yuck but I understand most people watch it.

He's very good with technology so I'm not sure what to think. Its from a good few years ago. Not recent at all. Well so he says but I couldn't verify that. He was honest about it when found. He sounded surprised it was there.

Would it be an issue for you? It's bringing up past issues for myself so I'm being unkind to myself atm.

Haven't had a chance to talk to him about it yet due to work ect. I'm trying to find how I feel about it before I say anything.

To he fair, sometimes my OneDrive will send me a reminder that 6 years ago today I took a photo and I no longer have that photo stored on my phone.
I think you would need to ask him about it

Would you forget that kind of content though? He definitely knows about the cloud

It's not clear from your post, but we're they having sex on the videos?

Sorry name change fail. And yep they sure was

I'd struggle to forget those images! It's foolish of him to still have them where they could be accessed.

I have an old Google account from years ago that I've forgot about and probably has loads of shit of me and my ex. I've just never thought about the stuff on there since and I totally forgot till this post tbh.. I could not be arsed if my partner stumbled across it and started getting upset. We are in a day an age where there is digital footprint, you don't just lose/throw in the bin pictures anymore so honestly you just need to get over it and ask him to delete. I bet he's never even thought about the old stuff on his cloud

Well, people have sex when in relationships. Don't think I'd like to see my partner with his ex. You should probably ask him to delete them. If he's any kind of decent person, he will.

Also OP did you happen to stumble across other stuff from that same time that wasn't pictures of his ex, related to ex. Random life pictures? If so then he's genuinely just forgot, if it's purely just sexual pictures of his ex and nothing else then maybe they are kept on purpose 🤷🏽‍♀️

Yep obviously people have sex that's not what I'm bothered about. It's the fact he's kept it.
Is he not over the ex?
Has he been using it as a personal porn type thing?

@piggyplate

This same thing happened to me!! (except he had recently moved photos and videos into one file called "naughty" after being together for 6 months.)

And this wasn't just one woman, there was a littany!
He said he doesn't know why he kept it probably a male ego thing.
Maybe a bit of a "w**k bank".

It upset me, but I didn't lose my mind over it... I found it a bit creepy and I told him that I'm sure these women had assumed he had deleted the content once their flings were over.
He deleted it after I said it made me uncomfortable, but I didn't ask him too (but happy he did!)

I gathered my thoughts too.

I think we make porn so "normal" that things like this are normalised, when they're not normal!

Just tell him how you feel. X

Sometimes I think men like to see themselves in their own porn, so he might be more bothered about seeing himself in action than his ex. I mean, she could be any female, but he's in a porn video, kinda thing.

I definitely think my past is clouding my judgement here. Going to talk with him when we get the chance and go from there.

@Piggyplate my iCloud account is literally backup and dumping ground and I’m now wondering if I should go through it.

I delete stuff off my phone and think it’s gone completely forgetting there is a back up in the cloud.

I reckon it’s that simple. Is it in his phone etc? You can all see when a file was last opened/accessed unless you’ve played them.