Feeling a little low with nobody to talk to- could I have some advice?

[BarbieLand]

I'm feeling a little low tonight. 2 years ago my ex- fiancé of 10 years left me for someone at work. I was devastated- I thought that we were going to have children/get married etc and I was late twenties so it felt like a massive blow. Him and her moved in together very quickly.

I've been single since, mainly out of choice. I also put quite a bit of weight on in the relationship so I've been working on that and I've had to move for work a bit so I haven't felt like dating, but recently I've started to feel like my old self again and was regaining a bit more confidence.

Well, long story short my ex recently came back. Single again and I stupidly let him back in. We didn't see each other but were texting and 'catching up' throughout the day and just hearing how each others lives were. He randomly texted out of the blue on a number he wasn't blocked on.

I enjoyed it- was nice to have someone to good morning text etc, and I got a little bit carried away with him, old emotions filled in and we started sexting. This latest around 2 weeks and now he's decided again he's uninterested.

I don't really care about him as such, more the fact that I've let myself down by letting him back in. Now, I feel that my confidence has been knocked a bit and I feel a bit meh about it.

Make sure he's blocked on every number this time...

You’re still lovely and he’s still a prick. Just keep reminding yourself of that.

Well, it's great that he has really put to bed any doubts about exactly what sort of arse he is. The absolute final nail in the coffin has been driven home and you've had a valuable if painful lesson in policing your boundaries and dignity like a hawk.
It's understandable you took the ego boost from a familiar person who you have had strong feelings for and maybe weren't completely over... So go easy on the self castigation, but no one gets to be a wise kick ass woman without some life blunders along the way.
Chalk it up to experience, lick your wounds and continue your excellent work in making yourself into the best version of you, showing yourself some love and care and seeing what life brings your way.

He is an absolute twat. You are well rid. Don’t let him sabotage your recovery back to your old self. Block him fully. Don’t give him an inch. You know you deserve better. Ex for a good reason x

Just think of it as a quick hello with an old friend. Just block the new number, if he contacts you again say something like it was nice to catch up, but I don’t want to stay in touch. I wish you all the best goodbye.

It was only a text and you were bored. Don’t get too upset.

Although it feels very hard, he has done you a favour by showing you what a twat he is.

Move on now and find the wonderful self you are and always have been.

You deserve better.

You gave it another shot because he was an important part of your past. Now you Truly know he is a dick. Block move on and aim higher.

Delete and block the cock.

Aww OP don't feel bad, you just have a lovely open heart that someone will adore someday. He's given you closure by proving what an ass he is so you don't have to wonder, maybe you should thank him! (Kidding.) But don't let it get you down, make a list of all the wonderful things about you, make some nice plans for the weekend and plan a couple chores around the house too and by the time Monday rolls around you will feel like a million bucks.

Hi @BarbieLand you should not be feeling meh at all, you've done so well to have gotten over your ex.
When i do something and i think 'that didn't feel so good, i don't want to feel like this again' i say that to myself and keep moving forward.
Continue moving forward hun x

That's so mean of him. What an arsehole.
If it's any consolation, I had really unhealthy relationships in my 20s with really mean men who would mess me around like this. I don't know if I got better taste and became more picky or men generally behaved better in their 30s but I had much more positive relationship experiences after.
Keen concentrating on yourself and your self worth. Don't go there again with him. No one deserves to be played like that.

It was incredibly mean of him.