Anyone around for a hand hold? Feeling low about ex

[Aloen]

He promised me everything. I didn’t even ask. Then one day he up and left. Said he felt we didn’t have a connection. Totally stunned.

I just saw his profile on a dating app. And I was overwhelmed with anger and hurt, so I sent him angry msgs around how he’s not fooling me anymore, he’s a liar, and he still owes me money etc. Don’t regret it. Even though I’d normally take the high road and walk away with dignity. He’s hurt me so badly. Blocked now.

Just looking for some support and a hand hold. Tell me it gets better.

It’s gonna be okay, he sounds like a piece of crap and we’ve all been there.
He is an example of what you don’t want in the next person you will meet!
Keep him blocked, treat yourself to a new hair cut, new clothes and whatever else you fancy as a little pick me up and hopefully you’ll soon feel better.

My ex promised me the world, ended up destroying mine instead. I did the angry messages too. Made myself look crazy on many occasions. Its been over a year now and believe me it does get better...best thing that ever happened was losing him though it didn't feel that way at the time. Be angry if you need to, cry, rant. Get it all out then get healing. Concentrate on you and slowly things will improve.

Another one who’s been there and come out the other side.

Thought I’d found my soulmate, promised me the world…he was the biggest liar, cheat and scrounged I’ve ever met. He still owes me money too.

I thought I would die when he walked out on me. I begged, lost my dignity…he made me feel crazy. But do you know what? He did me the biggest favour, it hurt and some days I thought the pain would never end but he’s a scumbag, his life has fallen apart and he’s begged me back for nearly a year. I am SO much happier without him, and you will be too. I promise x

Aw thank you all
and sorry you’ve been there
it’s been 6 weeks and im mostly doing fine now
the first few weeks I felt like I had an open infested wound
now I feel a mix of emotions - hurt, upset, anger and shame
and embarrassment that I let myself believe him
like you all, I know deep down he has done me the bigger favour in the world
and it is and will continue to get better
but wow what a punch in the gut

why do these men do it ??

We’ll never understand, because we’re not like them.
He will be the same in his next relationship, and the next….

You will heal in time, and go on to find someone who values you. Do you have support in real life? It’s going to take time, some days will be harder than others but you’ll get there. 6 weeks is no time at all. No contact is the only way, block him everywhere x

You are a whole person just as you are. Not being in a relationship doesn’t mean you are not a whole being, just as you are. You are not less, even if he chooses not to be with you. That’s his loss. Hugs. Keep telling yourself that. B