Sold jewellery to pay to be off work

[bluepopp]

Due to oh wanting to leave me few years ago and things they said back then.
We stayed together and are ok but I suffer with bad depression and anxiety where I just can't face work sometimes so have sold loads of my beautiful jewellery to have time off work as need to make money so my partner doesn't notice we have less money now when I am not working.
It is all jewellery they bought me over our relationship.
Sometimes I feel very sad that I am doing this and other times I don't care as the jewellery they bought me before they wanted to leave me means nothing in a way as special before they wanted to leave me but I can't have been that special if they wanted to go.
Does anyone else understand where I am coming from?
I feel before I would never have got rid of anything but I have and I can't change that as sometimes so low I can't face things.
I keep all this secret as they would be so gutted/annoyed I done this but sometimes I just need time off as feel so bad

so my partner doesn't notice we have less money now when I am not working

why doesnt he know there is less coming in?

You need to tell him. Are
You scared
Of him?

Not scared
They would never hurt me physically
Very caring except back then

Say I got paid cash that week as problem with payroll
Pay cash into joint account

I will never tell them but just fell bad about everything back then, my changed view of the world and people and sad

Feel pretty bad today so off work again and done same

Is the reason you feel so bad/low/depressed that you're unable to face work in a regular basis, down to the fact your OH nearly left you a few years ago? That's the impression I'm getting from your post.

If that's the case I think you either need to end the relationship and move on, or get some counselling/therapy. The fact that it's not going to be financially sustainable is only one part of this. The fact that your life is utterly miserable as a result of your relationship and having such a significant impact on other areas of your life is the main issue you need to address

so your partner thinks you are working?

What kind of relationship is this where you can't tell your partner you're having mental health problems and need time off work and instead you're pretending to work.

If they wouldn't be supportive of you needing time off then they shouldn't be your partner

How are you able to have time off work like this from their point of view? Is it a flexible, casual job?

Apologies if I've missed that.

Please have an open, honest discussion with your partner. You sound miserable. Sell the jewellery for yourself if you no longer have the same attachment to it.

You must have some spectacular jewellery to be able to sell it for a decent sum. I know people suggest it if they're strapped for cash but when I tried I was barely offered scrap value.

Can you make an appointment with your gp? You sound very down.

Aren’t you eligible for sick pay? You sound like you need some time off but a sick note would be more manageable

if they are your partner, then you need to tell them

if you are scared to tell them, then you need to leave

If you partner can afford to buy you the kind of jewellery that sells well enough to cover an actual salary then I am confident that as a couple you can afford to take some actual time off sick and address your mental health issues.