Hi, just looking for some advice. Basically me and partner have been together for a few years. Both have children previous and child together. Our relationship hasn't been smooth sailing basically due to partners ex.. we have had false abuse claims, lies, threats, extremely odd behaviour, constant problems and being nasty etc. I understand everyone takes break ups different but she cheated on my partner. However.. skip forward to now, we still have her using kids as weapons and just trying to cause issues or be nasty at any point (few weeks ago, my child with partner was wished dead, and 2 more kick offs since then - like this is constant). Due to everything that's happened before.. I can't help but feel everytime there is an issue, I hang onto it and just have some anger inside and it effects my relationship with partner. I ultimately take it out on him, even though he has no control on the influence of her, he tries to ignore her as best possible but of course has to communicate due to children. Do you ever get over such a bad past experience with partner and forget all that's happened negative due to someone else? And more importantly if so, then how? I feel the whole past drags up everytime there is an issue.