Dating Apps (Women Experience)

[Lucious1000]

Just curious if the experience women get on these apps.

Do you get 1 Bazzilion likes a day?

Just curious if your experience. I'm not a bad looking gentleman but I hate them and find they are bad for your confidence.

I much preferred getting shot down in person.

It's not an equal playing field. Women get far more likes than men, going by what male and female friends say.

I had a competition with my man, as we still had our profiles there. I had something like 33 likes over a week before he had 1. That means I'd also have a higher chance of matching if I had liked anyone.

However, just because we get likes doesn't mean we're going to likes them back. I think how men and women use dating apps tends to be different, and there are some really rubbish men's profiles out there. Mind you, there could be really rubbish women's profiles out there too, but they're not likely to show to me.

Yes a lot of likes, sone of them match but very few actually communicate and even less actually get as far as meeting up.

I would only use an app where you have to match first, I don't want likes and messages from randoms. Quite honestly I think men are a lot less fussy than women so probably their rejection rate will be higher for that reason.

I used to get loads of likes. I never paid for any of the apps - so all I could see was a number - like "you have 88 likes" or whatever. I basically completely ignored the number of likes I had and just scrolled and "liked" the men I liked the look of and who were in a suitable distance of me. I think women are more likely to get a match than a guy - just because it's a pure numbers game initially.

I did try POF for a short while where you can send a message without matching and TBH i hated it, getting lots of messages from completely random men - ones who were hundreds of miles away for example.

I think men tend to get less likes - because women are more selective at the first early stage.

Try not to take it too personally. Like others have said - men and women behave differently on OLD - that's just how it is.

The normal guys that I 'liked' or to who I sent a message, never replied to me.
The likes I got were from men I didn't fancy, some who lived 200 miles away, or were 15 years older than me.
I gave up.

Or young enough to be my son saying they’re into older women.

I get a few likes a day when my profile is visible. On this particular app, I can see that they’ve looked at the picture and not read my profile.

Maybe one a fortnight that I end up meeting - that’s enough for me, I prefer meeting men IRL.

I've heard all the above and even though I think I'd like lots of likes (because you never know) it sounds hideous for women.

It requires patience but it's such a horrible experience.

Was chatting daily with a girl for a week, day before the arranged date she disconnected from me (not a problem, had to much to do that day) but REALLY why waste my time?

The general consensus seems to be that women often get a great quantity of likes and matches, but men get better quality. Women spend a lot of time filtering out guys who want quick sex or make no effort - but men are up against the many other men, so get jaded about trying. It's not easy!

And yeah, some people do waste each other's time, though often they just decide after texting awhile that someone isn't a good match. I'm sorry.

As a man I used to get a slew of likes up to say 30 on bumble. Then it would slow.
Tinder would be more, then slow down. Then I'd get a steady stream of likes.
Only a very small percentage I actually liked the look of anyway and an even smaller grouping to chat then date.

Was chatting daily with a girl for a week, day before the arranged date she disconnected from me (not a problem, had to much to do that day) but REALLY why waste my time?
What exactly do you mean by wasting your time? You didn't go to the date - you mean the time you spent chatting? You have to put the time in, or how else will people be able to work out if they want to meet up or not?
I'd see it as wasting your time if she'd actually made you go through the date, after working out from the chatting that she wasn't that keen after all - or after having another date and knowing she was more interested in him.
Rude not to say goodbye, but the situation can be pretty awkward when you've created a virtual relationship with a stranger through daily chats!

Just a hunch here but based on the other thread you've started asking where to go for hookups, is there a chance you put off your potential date by making less-than-gentlemanly expectations obvious?
If so I think she was right to bodyswerve the meeting.

Think everyone on OLD has experienced something similar. I was actually ready dressed waiting to leave to go on the date and he deleted me!

It’s bloody hard work for little reward but think it’s best not to take it too personally or seriously.

Depends on the app.

In the early days a couple of times I responded to a 'like' to find that the guy clearly had no idea who I was and had just liked every woman on the site.

There are circumstances in which I got a lot of response - when I was up for hookups basically.

But I also learned that a lot of men try to put pressure on and get angry if you respond at all and then decide they're not for you (see above) - just like they do everywhere else. So I ended up being like all the other women who ignore most of the responses/wolfwhistles. I don't owe anyone my time.

Dp responded to my like with a personal response, was pleasant and normal. That was 2.5 years ago, we're moving in together soon.