Rejection

[wantittoneober]

How do you cope with being left for someone else when that person is now pregnant they are living their absolute best life and 7 months later you still struggle to function.
Everyone keeps saying it will pass but I have counselling anti depressants but the sadness just sits with me every day

I think you just live each day as it comes, and try not to torture yourself with it. And think about the fact that we often paint situations as they are `not and then find out one day we had it totally wrong. You never know the ins and outs of what they are going through, whether he regrets it and worries he has done the wrong thing, whether she is fearful he will cheat and leave, or she got him and now isn't that sure. You don't know any of this. Don't make it up! Focus on you and your life, and the sadness you feel is the first part of that. Take it easy and be kind to yourself x

I am sending you a big hand hold. I am so sorry you are still feeling so bereft. It’s the pants but many of us have been there and we just kept putting on a brave face, one day at a time and one foot in front of the other.

One day you might hear on the grape vine that his/their life isn’t actually that rosy. Who knows what their future holds?

What goes around comes around and one day you might wake up feeling much happier and without another care or thought about him/her and their life. Be patient. You’ll see.
Big virtual hug. 🤗

Thanks both of you for replying I just miss him so much

Ew, nasty. After 7 months? That's not long, even without the added extras.
It will pass eventually, but these things do take time.

7 months sounds like an accidental pregnancy. That’ll likely put some pressures into the relationship. Take your time with slowly starting to feel better.

Oh op, I'm also sending you a huge virtual hug.

Not everything that glitters is gold.

Seven months is a very short time to grieve the loss of a relationship you valued, Be patient with yourself.

Also, as a pp said, the timing suggests an accidental pregnancy in the new relationship, rather than some image of shiny domestic bliss.

Hi @wantittoneober so sorry you're going through this xx
I know it's so hard but please you have to think about what he has done to hurt you, this will stop you from missing him. You will get stronger and you will get through this time xx

7 months… most likely it was an accidental pregnancy or else he was seeing her before you found out. I completely understand what you mean here, I left my ex fiancé 7 years ago and to this day I still have some feelings for him, even tho he was a tool. I’m married now to someone else but I loved him so much that I suppose part of me always will. I had a hard time accepting that, considering the type of man he was. All I can say is that it helped for me to acknowledge that I will always feel that way. It also helps me to know that I’m not the only one who feels this way. I agree with another poster who said just take everyday as it comes. Find the things in life that make you happy and concentrate on those. I like to take in what’s around me; be glad I have sight to see pretty flowers, be happy I can go to work everyday, be grateful for the abilities I have. It reminds me that we are individual, on our own path and of the things that are really important in life. I don’t know if that advice helps but it kind of helps me. All the best x

@KarrieKoKo thank you I honestly can't do this again. I am staying single forever it is not worth the pain x

No advice OP but I really do relate to you. It's indescribably painful, soul destroying. Been there twice and I'll never get involved with anyone again x