What's your greatest attribute in a relationship and what's your greatest weakness that you'd like to work on?

[gottalovepenneys]

Reading so many threads lately where the self esteem of so many posters has been so low when they clearly have so many great attributes that are reflected in their posts .
Then I saw the post about men being so grateful to get a shag despite the women feeling under confident etc.
I thought about my own flaws and realised there were a lot more of them than attributes and as as woman who normally feels confident and self assured , I was disappointed with myself.
So to begin, I do not experience jealousy and am generous with my time and affection.
My flaws are that I can rush in to fix men's issues when their issues have nothing to do with me, give the benefit of the doubt too often especially with flaky men and am too financially generous when I can't afford to be.
I am really going g to work on these.
What are yours ?
I'm hoping we may learn from each other particularly about what works for you when you wanted to improve certain areas

I’m very kind; I think I’m funny 😆
I expect and give total freedom of movement in a relationship- I am not my husband’s keeper
I am a control freak tbh; my husband says I’m lovely as long as I’m happy - and I think he works to keep me like that so he does more emotional labour than me.

That's a lovely response , thanks!
Kindness trumps all !

I think facets of personality are strengths and weaknesses.

Eg I am very organised and practical (good); I expect others to understand my way is best (not good).

I am generous and supportive (good); sometimes I need to realise I should step back and not try to solve everything for others (bad).

Aaaand the list goes on!!

Negatives first - I suffer terribly from imposter syndrome and never think I'm good enough and capable enough. It is a self esteem issue and I'm working on it. Also my first relationship was very abusive, and resulted in untreated ptsd. This has meant that in any subsequent relationship I've always been on alert that it could end at any minute and I've always had a back of plan of being a strong, independent, single woman. Which means there is always that wall up around my heart and I can never fully relax and be settled.

Positives - I'm kind, I'm generous, I'm a generally nice person. I'm put other people first, I care about making the world a nice place to be in. I'm incredibly tolerant and patient with all sorts of people. I have time for everyone and I'm an amazing listener. I can also hold my own in a conversation with people of all walks of life - from CEO's to council estate mums. I'm bright, intelligent and can be articulate but I never forget my roots either (I've been the single mum on benefits living in a council house, I know that world first hand even if I've taken myself out via education and hard work). I am quite sarcastic though with a dry sense of humour, and I like to be silly and dance around the kitchen and believe glitter is a creation of the gods. I have a pretty face, lusciously thick hair, and a very healthy body. I'm certainly aging very well and have excellent skin with zero wrinkles even though I'm heading very close to middle age - the mum tum does give that away though.

I'm amazing and a fucking good catch, shame I don't want to be caught

I'm kind, honest and loyal. I'm intelligent, educated and financially independent. I have a couple of pretty cool hobbies. I am reasonably attractive, have a fairly good figure, quirky/slightly alternative style. I never put myself down or seek reassurance about my appearance or someone's feelings for me. I'm supportive and expect and allow autonomy and freedom.

However, I am unable to believe or accept that I am loveable and/or in any way fanciable 🤷🏻‍♀️