Advice please

[mumofds's]

Hello beautiful mumsnetters I would really like your advice on some topics. Myself and dp have been together 13 years with two ds throughout the entire relationship he had cheated on me with numerous women I am looking on advice on how to stay strong and finally leave we are not married and I have been mostly a sahm for the past 7 years I'm really in a bad position as I do not have financial security for myself or ds.

I haven’t any advice, OP, except to say make sure he pays proper maintenance for the children. Don’t just accept what he offers, check what you’re entitled to and get that, through CMS if necessary.

Others will come along soon with useful advice, OP. Best of luck. And we’ll done for protecting DC - they should not have to grow up with your STBX as a main role model.

Do you own or rent ?

Get a job. And a pension.
Get your own bank account with your wage and child benefit paid into it.
Start saving Boots/Tesco/Sainsbury’s points up.
Do you have any joint savings ?

@DustyLee123 He owns the property we live in. Also no joint savings we have just sold a property that had my name on the deeds as well as his and he has all the the moneys in his account. I shouldn't have stayed this long but felt I needed security for the dc.

Does he know you're unhappy?
Do you have anywhere you can go temporarily?
How will he act when you end the relationship?

@GoodChat I think he dies know I'm unhappy. Unfortunately at the moment we are in another country and I don't have anywhere to go temporarily and I really don't want to move our DC around too much. Honestly I'm not sure how he will act when I do end the relationship he can be really hot and cold at times.

I'm sorry typo I meant to say I think he does know 🙄