I've posted about this a couple of times previously but I'm still really struggling.
I've been with my partner for coming up to 2 years. In so many ways, it's absolutely the best relationship over ever had.
I know he loves me. He tells and shows me this in his actions every day. We get on so well and are really similar in so many ways. But I just don't think he fancies me or is sexually attracted to me.
I've been advised to seek therapy and I've contacted several therapists in my area who offer support for this sort of thing who are based in a location I can realistically commit to getting to with work/family commitments but I haven't heard back from any of them.
I've tried talking to him - I was really candid about how felt and he was reassuring as I knew he would be but I just don't believe it. On a really fundamental level, I just can't see or accept it.
In the past, I've known I was 'fancied' in relationships but not loved. This has really thrown me. It's almost like I can't process or accept the two existing in the same place. It's either love or physical/sexual attraction but not both. I think the fact that he loves me means he is possibly willing to sacrifice feeling sexual/physical attraction.
He talks about the future and about progressing the relationship. Part of me tries to tell myself that he wouldn't do that if he wasn't attracted to me and part of me is telling myself that I want to be alone and can't face the rhought of the rest of life with someone who isn't attracted to me.
I don't know if theres any basis in reality or truth to how I'm feeling. But the feeling is overwhelming at times.