I've posted a couple of points about this before but still in a situation where I am torn about the right course of action.
My mum died nearly 2 years ago. My dad and mum were together for 40 years although I know he messaged men on and off throughout their marriage (I know because on a couple of occasions he accidentally sent them to me...)
6 weeks after my mums funeral, dad tells me he's met someone else. Turns out it's a guy, no issues there from my perspective, until I find out he was 28. And my dad is 78. Alarm bells were ringing. Dad insisted he was from a wealthy family, they were splitting bills etc. He quickly became disinterested in me and my kids, we were not welcome. Fast forward a few months and my uncle (mum's brother) goes into hospital and when he comes out he mentions to me that someone had cloned his bank and credit cards while he was unwell. More red flags. It all came to a head one day when my dad's letting agent called me to say he was behind on his rent and could I pay (no I can't). Turns out he had been stealing from my uncle, he used his bank cards and sold my uncles car all while he was in hospital so he could have access to cash. Turns out the lad was an escort and that's where all the money was going. He spent all my mums estate including money she had earmarked for me for a house deposit (my husband has MS and we wanted to buy somewhere to make adaptations that would make his life easier).
As more and more time has gone on, things have got worse. He had to move house, he was arrested for shop lifting and he's "borrowed" £8k from two family friends which still remain unpaid.
He called me last week, desperate. He sent me 30 texts in 45 minutes saying how desperate he was for money and he was going to lose his new flat if he didn't pay his rent. He asked to borrow £190 and he promised that he would pay me back Thursday. Thursday came, no money. He's now saying there are issues with his benefits but he will definitely pay me back this week. I know I need to cut him off, but I feel bad as he has nobody but me. He is alone and I don't like to think of any one on their own. I also don't want to look like I don't care but I'm finding this all very stressful and upsetting. I don't know what to do as everytime I think I have clarity, I then doubt myself