Why aren't I truly happy ?

[IncognitoBaby]

I am married to a lovely man, he is a great dad to our son, he provides for us although I do work myself but he pays more towards the bills. He is honest, loyal and truly loves me. He would never hurt me and puts our families happiness first but why aren't i truly happy ? I always wonder what life would be like starting again. We don't seem to spend a great deal of time alone as we have our son and when we do it's watching TV. I feel like we are in a rut where life is just predictable and there is no excitement anymore.
I've been feeling like this for going on a year now if not longer so not sure I can entirely say it's a phase I am going through... does anyone else feel the same ?

OP you list some ways in which your husband sounds like a good man, but do you love him? Are you still attracted to him? Do you remember why you got together in the first place?

If you do still love him, you could try and recreate some of that closeness you had in the earlier stages of your relationship. If your son is still young, it's natural that your social life takes a hit for a while, as you are probably both tired and busy, but maybe you could schedule some time with your husband, like a 'date night' or something (I know it sounds cheesy, but it might work).

The best thing to do would be to sit down and talk with your husband about your feelings, let him know that you feel a bit stuck in a rut and would like to actively make some changes.

You are stuck in a rut + need to try to drag yourself out. What have you got planned for the summer? Or is that the problem? With no plans to look forward to, I can easily fall into a bit of a rut like you describe. Life can become too focused on work + childcare. Your husband may feel in a rut as well. It may not be fully about your man, but more about you and your life. When I'm in a rut I day dream about getting on the next bus to anywhere, not because I want to escape my family, but that I need a change of scenery + to do something different.
On a nice night, turn the TV off + take a drink outside if you can + make some exciting plans.

Thanks for your messages we have the conversation before and things do seem to change and are lovely for a while but then they seem to fall in the routine stage again. I love him yes but don't know if I am attracted to him anymore is that even possible ?
I know it sounds stupid but I see couple on social media and in public etc so happy with their partners and having a laugh etc and I think I want to be like that again. When we do spend time together they conversations always about our son, the conversation can die off pretty quickly