Just a rant really, ex h said he would take both of the kids (teens) to an event if they could get tickets. Then he mentioned several weeks after agreeing to this whilst they tried to secure tickets that he would like to take his girlfriend too. They’ve only been told she was his girlfriend recently, both of the kids said they wouldn’t go if she was coming, they wanted time with him. He then told them that he wouldn’t take them!! I’m so hurt for them, he’s spent so little time with them growing up, no set times with them since he left us over 5 years ago, always last minute as and when it suited him which can be months in between. Everything and everyone else always came before his family and now he’s putting someone else before them once more. She isn’t a new girlfriend, she’s not local and it’s the person I have suspected for years before he even moved out so I suspect she’s been kept hidden away but both kids have met her as his ‘friend’. He allegedly hadn’t even asked her about the concert so why is it a problem? I told the kids it wouldn’t bother me if they went but they still said no. However, we managed to secure tickets and we will make a weekend of it. I’m being accused of poisoning the kids against him, accused of using their phones to send him messages to the point my eldest had to send him a photo to prove it was indeed her messaging him and not me like he thought. He claims it’s my words being used and not theirs, well they do live with me 100% of the time, natural they may use certain phrases that I do. Now he has been messaging my eldest opinions on our plans and always drops a negative comment about it. She shows me any messages from him like this. I emailed him about this and asked him to keep his nose out as his negative opinions are not wanted, the kids are delighted to have this organised but in he stomps with his comments. I was told to not blame him if our hotel was shit and he was only trying to help. I replied stating why would I blame him if I was the one who booked it and that we hadn’t even asked for his help. 🙄
He doesn’t want us but I feel he still wants to have a certain voice over our lives. He has provided for us well but I’m a shell of the person I used to be due to his adultery and lies, I’ve little confidence but I’m trying, every time I take this kids away he has an opinion on why his suggestion is better.
So frustrating 🙁