Showing her that she's my soul mate without actually saying that?!

[Iloveabaconbutty]

I love my wife more than I can say. We've been together a lot of years and been through various ups and downs and have always stuck by each other. All good and I know I'm a very lucky guy. But I'm also aware that too often I'm stuck in my own head space with work distractions or just my own thoughts and worries - nothing major, just the usual daily stuff, just like she is, really.

She knows I love her (and I tell her often) but are there really good ways that can I show her that she really is my complete soulmate without using that sort of terminology which wouldn't feel natural to me and which to be honest would sound very soppy and a bit silly to both of us!?

Ask her

What is her primary love language? Using that language is by far the best way to make her feel really loved.

Actions speak louder than words. If getting stuck in your own headspace is causing issues, then this needs to be addressed. Words are just words, if your wife and your relationship with her is important then show it. Walk the walk.

Ditto the the love languages, are you familiar? If it's touch, give her a nice massage. If it's quality time, schedule a surprise day out together doing some activities she likes. If it's acts of service, do something for her that she wants/needs help with to lighten her load. If it's words of affirmation, give her a genuine compliment or write her a little note telling what you love about her. I forget the fifth one....You get the idea 😊

If you can say it to us, why can't you say it to her? Why not just write it in a nice card? It seems like you're prioritising your hang-up over her. Actions do speak louder than words - so, as your action, how about overcoming this?

Thank you to everyone for all your suggestions and advice which I think will be really helpful. Much appreciated.

It's actually our wedding anniversary today which I want to make super special for her.