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DH, what do you think of this?

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namechanged221 · 23/07/2023 20:50

When an attractive woman with a nice bum walks past us, DH always purposely looks off in another direction.

But it's just so obvious the way he does it.

This evening he was literally looking up into the sky... instead of looking at his brother's girlfriend's bum when she was walking in front of him.

I actually said, why are you walking along looking up at the sky???

He might as well say, oh she's got a nice arse?

It's just a bit annoying. is this normal behaviour?

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madeinmanc · 23/07/2023 22:06

*gorgeous

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namechanged221 · 23/07/2023 22:06

No I've never made an issue of it, I've never even mentioned it!!!

But don't you think that he doesn't need to do that? Just walk along normally?

Dear me

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namechanged221 · 23/07/2023 22:10

madeinmanc · 23/07/2023 22:05

It's men, OP, they're not the same as us. A gorgeously, 10/10 attractive man can walk past us with his butt to us and we don't feel compelled to stare at it and take it in or to exaggeratedly look away to show we're not staring and taking it in, but they can't. A woman's figure holds an undeniable power over straight men.

Yes I guess. But all the other men I know don't do that.... they just seem to be fine with behaving normally? It just seems a bit silly.

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NobblyBob · 23/07/2023 22:25

OP I totally get it. Yes men/women will see someone attractive out and about.. who cares. But an over exaggerated averting of the eyes is so odd 🤣 strange bloke you have there.

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namechanged221 · 23/07/2023 22:30

NobblyBob · 23/07/2023 22:25

OP I totally get it. Yes men/women will see someone attractive out and about.. who cares. But an over exaggerated averting of the eyes is so odd 🤣 strange bloke you have there.

Yes exactly.. so unnecessary

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Takeabreather23 · 23/07/2023 22:32

@namechanged221 im now single for this exact reason (well it’s one of the reasons ) I agree they are clearly seeing something they like and are trying not to make it obvious which makes it work .

The way I explained it was why do you always have to notice , why are you always looking /noticing can’t you just be normal and enjoy your day and who you are with .

yes there are loads of attractive people around we know that, but not everyone notices every arse a lot can control themselves.

And you just don’t look at a family member like that they should automaticity be off limits .

PragmaticWench · 23/07/2023 22:32

I think it's a form of social ineptitude, almost a teenage attempt at trying not to look at an attractive woman. Obviously it's irritating and someone needs to have a quiet word but for me it's Hugh Grant in Four Weddings social ineptitude.

Takeabreather23 · 23/07/2023 22:33

@namechanged221

worse* not work

Staplesonstamps · 23/07/2023 22:42

He’s making a show of being oh so virtuous.

or

He gets an uncontrollable raging erection if his eyes settle in a nice butt for more than .5 of a second. He just can’t risk walking down the street with a massive stalk on 🤣

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