Lost and Confused

[SoulMateDestiny]

I have been a lurker for a long time... sadly never did I think to post. About 5 weeks ago my husband sent me a message effectively stating the marriage was/is over. He works away, so sent this whilst away.

I am utterly bereft, lost and confused, I did not see this coming, yes we did have the usual issues, stress, family life etc, etc, but nothing like this.

I am just looking for advice, I have no idea what I am going to do. He has already stated that I can stay in our joint home for 2 years (good of him eh), but in the next few months, he would like me to sign over my half of the house, thus relleasing half the equity to myself.

Any advice to a broken, lost woman,Thank you

Nonsense that anyone is entitled to 50% without knowing detail

but what we do know is married for 7 years. And you knew that when you posted the 50% nonsense

@SoulMateDestiny - really sorry you’re going through this. It sounds very much like he’s met someone else whilst he’s been working away. I think you will need to find a way to afford some legal advice. In the long run, it may cost you more not to have it. Either way, it’s very hard to see why you would sign over your share in the family home. That sounds like a very bad idea. Why on earth does he think that’s a fair proposition?

Maybe how it’s worded but signing over our half of the house to him gives him all of the house. I can’t see how this releases your half of the equity. Please get legal advice, do not sign or agree to anything and find all the paperwork, relating to finances you can.

Do not sign anything. Why should you? Stay in the house until he forces you out. Start looking into renting, start planning for an independent future. Stop putting money into the joint account. Figure out who owns the house/pays the mortgage/pays the bills for utilities. You have to know and understand the ownership of this major asset befire you know what should be done.