His father died…

[Gowlett]

And I understand that he’s grieving. I’ve been there for him. Said I’d support him. He had a bad childhood.

But my marriage is even more of a hell-scape than ever. With every argument ending with’”My dad just died!”

I have high blood pressure from the stress. I really want DH out now, but he’s saying I’m selfish & uncaring.

How long is it since his dad died ? What are you arguing about ?

Depends on how long ago this was op I think

Phone ate my reply, sorry!

A month ago.

I think the problem is that DH has been self-medicating (weed) & that makes his mood so much worse…

The arguments are a feature of our marriage. He starts them. His family are all he same. It’s a horrible way to live.