Thoughts on the issue from female point of view.

[DerrickL90]

Hi everyone I'm new on here and just a man looking for some advice from a female perspective please. Just gonna start with background of the issue first. Me and my wife are married for 2 years but been together for 10 and have a 1 year old son.
Basically it all started last year where her male friend started coming round like once a week (as I work nights) which was a red flag to me and eventually my wife told me that they kissed. I was devastated but I could see it coming, so we talked about it and changed needed to be made for both of us, but shes still talking to that male friend and she knows him as long as she knows me😩 So last time we've had sex was in February...... I've had a very bad suspicion that the worst is yet to come so I've only had a chance to check her Internet history. On 2 occasions she searched for morning after pill online and I've actually found and empty packet in her bedside drawer stashed away under the clothes. She never ever told me she used it and to me that's stone cold cheating. So here's my question, can a morning after pill ellaone be used for any other reason like maybe to do with periods etc. Cause it is meant to be emergency contraception.
Thank you for reading and look forward to some answers.

Stop snooping on her search history and ask her?

No it won’t be used for anything else, I’m sorry.

i don’t think you need anything else to know what is going on, so please don’t feel you need to keep searching. You have your answers, don’t be lied to

I've never known anyone use them morning after pill as anything other than emergency contraceptive.
Sounds like you need to tell her what you have found and try to get some clear communication going.
If your fears are true then perhaps it is a good thing your child is young as the change to co-parenting will be less impactful.
To be honest the fact that she has kissed him but still keeps him in her life is not good, I think anyone who has done something which is s betrayal of their life partner should not reasonably expect that person to tolerate their continued presence, it's disrespectful and hardly reassuring or indicative of remorse or a wish to make amends.

Forget about the pills and divorce her

There are no other uses for the morning after pill. You know from her internet searches she has cheated on you physically at least twice. Im sorry. Only you know if you can forgive and work through it but for me, that would be the end. I'm saying that as a divorced person who has zero interest in ever going through a divorce again. If this were me, I'd be getting a divorce, again.

Yes, as others have said, it has only 1 use
Very sorry OP

Hmmmm, i wonder if she will tell the truth?

The morning after pill only has one use OP, so sorry. She's lied to you as its pretty obvious she's still cheating on you with this 'friend'.

This doesn't necessarily mean she's had sex with him, but it still isn't good news for your relationship. The other explanation could be that she found she was pregnant, but has doubts about your relationship (potentially because of the 'friend') so took the MAP.
Do you have any idea when she took it?

1000% it cannot be used for anything else. If she Has taken that pill and you've not had sex with her then the only explanation would be that she's had sex with someone else

I think I'd be tempted to come home very unexpectedly....

I’m very sorry, Derrick, but she is still cheating and making a mockery of you and your marriage.

After the initial infidelity, a recovery requirement should have been completely cutting contact with the OM. Any reputable relationship counselor would tell you this.

The affair never ended and has escalated. You don’t deserve such utter contempt. Tell her that you won’t be her fool any longer and walk away.

I'm so sorry but she's taking you for a mug and likely cheating.

I would get your ducks in a row and start making plans.

If she's found out she pregnant it's too late for the morning after pill

You need to leave her.
She has cheated. Aside from that, you don’t trust her. There isn’t anything left here to salvage. I’m so sorry

That theory doesn’t work, the MAP doesn’t terminate a pregnancy that’s already implanted and started secreting HCG.

Jesus Christ.

For me, trust would be gone. The relationship would be over. I'm sorry this happened to you, OP.

Thank you for all the input guys and much appreciated, it's definitely put things into perspective and I just gotta make the choice now!

I’m sorry Your wife is having unprotected sex with other men ,( presumably white you are at work) I don’t think you really have a lot to think about.

due to a short marriage you can probably walk away with whatever you brought into it, see a solicitor and get divorced and co parent you child

I’m so sorry. She’s behaving appallingly. The affair clearly just escalated after that ‘kiss’. I have no time for cheats who see the pain their partners are in and carry them on, it’s just so nasty.

Good luck in moving forward however you choose to do this!

@mumlovesvodka apologies it was late, and I was thinking about the medical abortion pill.
No need to be quite so rude.

Meant for @MachinesOfGod