New relationship/dating

[Wishineverchangedmyname]

When's the right time to tell your children you're dating? I've been separated from their father for over 2 years. DS 21, still very bitter about it, has previously said he'd disown me if I ever meet anyone else, which I know is just ridiculous.
I have met a man now but feel awful that every time I meet him I'm lying to my kids about where I am. I don't want to say anything to them too soon as this may not last but if it does last and I introduce them later on down the line it's going to be clear I've lied to them for months. My other DS is 16 and super chilled so I'm not as concerned about his reaction, he's likely to be more bothered about the lying than the relationship

I just told my kids I was seeing my “friend” so that I wasn’t technically lying to them. No need for them to know any of the specifics of the friendship 🤔 They worked it out by themselves without asking any awkward questions (I think they were too embarrassed)

I was a bit worried my DS would react like your eldest but in the end he was ok. You can’t let them dictate to you, you just need to reassure them that there is enough love for everyone.