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Making sense of nutso interaction with guy

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IslaSkywalker · 22/07/2023 00:29

I was seeing a guy who purported to be separated but I found out he still lives with his wife. He gave me a story about not being able to afford to move out and they're just housemates and have their own rooms and I was welcome to go and look for myself. I didn't I stopped seeing him.

Today I got a bizarre text from him saying "I hope you are joking". I replied and said I think you have sent this to the wrong person, and then I saw a missed call from him so I rang back. This is a mistake.

He was panicking his head off, as someone had sent a message to his (supposedly estranged) wife and he blamed me. He was gabbling, out of control panicking and talking nonsense, and was out of breath. I don't know her email address, WhatsApp, number, nothing. I have sent him this:

"I don't know your "housemate's" number, email address or have any interest in communication with her whatsoever. I am far too busy working and with my own life and business for this sort of caper. The panicked gabbling and accusations are concerning. This bizarre exchange tells me you're far more involved and enmeshed than you make out. Please don't involve me in your family dramas. I've zero interest. Also it is not the sort of thing I would pass the time doing in the hospital waiting area, thanks, I'd rather read the autotrader. Give me some credit for having some sense. I hope you sort it out"

It's absolutely nuts!

But why, just why? I also found he has my number in his phone under "Liam". What do you reckon??

I then had another message" so sorry xxxx"

Obviously I'm having no more contact but just why ffs???

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LadyKX · 22/07/2023 00:31

Why? Because he can.
Bastard.
Where did you meet this tosser?

IHateLegDay · 22/07/2023 00:31

He's obviously still very much married with multiple girls on the go. I'm guessing one of his other OW has let the cat out of the bag and he's having a meltdown.
I hope his poor wife leaves him.

IslaSkywalker · 22/07/2023 00:33

@LadyKX I met him on a night out at Christmas.

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Pinkbonbon · 22/07/2023 00:36

He's married and someone's told his wife he's shagging about.

It's not rocket science.

Maybe it was another woman he was trying to date. Or maybe someone saw you two together.

Ironic that you ask him to give you some credit though. He told you he still lived with his 'ex' and you kept seeing him...umm sorry but of course he thinks you're a soft touch.

IslaSkywalker · 22/07/2023 00:39

@Pinkbonbon Reread the end of the first paragraph please.

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Pinkbonbon · 22/07/2023 00:40

Strike that. Never mind I read wrong, you did stop.

Obviously someone else has turned him in though.

LadyKX · 22/07/2023 00:51

Yeah, unfortunately it does sound like he is not separated but is cheating, and someone has decided to inform his wife.
Lucky escape for you @IslaSkywalker

CallieQ · 22/07/2023 01:33

Bin him

DimeStoreHooker · 22/07/2023 01:36

Sounds like he's in a panic (and possibly drunk).

Pay it no further attention.

Greengrassoh · 22/07/2023 02:23

Was he on drugs?

Kitkatcatflap · 22/07/2023 02:46

Out of curiosity, did he stay over at yours or did you ever go away together? Could you phone him easily in the evening for a chat? Were they more clues?

IslaSkywalker · 22/07/2023 07:12

Kitkatcatflap · 22/07/2023 02:46

Out of curiosity, did he stay over at yours or did you ever go away together? Could you phone him easily in the evening for a chat? Were they more clues?

He stayed once, after that he told me about his living arrangements after previously saying he was separated, he said he had something to tell me and I don't want to be part of that sort of situation. He had texted a lot and yes often if I called he wouldn't answer, but often I was busy in the evenings anyway. But it felt odd yes.

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IslaSkywalker · 22/07/2023 07:23

Greengrassoh · 22/07/2023 02:23

Was he on drugs?

I don't think so no and he wasn't drunk either. Just weird!

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TurnerP · 22/07/2023 22:17

Screams cheater, married and not separated! You did well escaping that

IslaSkywalker · 25/12/2023 23:34

I had a Christmas card from the guy.

He told me that he's spending Christmas at his son's house with the son and his girlfriend, estranged wife, all their dogs and the estranged mother in law who's terminally ill. He says he's playing the game and being a decent person and supportive. He's sleeping on the sofa and the estranged wife is sharing the bed with her mum.

Then asked me to meet him between Christmas and new year. 😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️

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IHateLegDay · 25/12/2023 23:39

IslaSkywalker · 25/12/2023 23:34

I had a Christmas card from the guy.

He told me that he's spending Christmas at his son's house with the son and his girlfriend, estranged wife, all their dogs and the estranged mother in law who's terminally ill. He says he's playing the game and being a decent person and supportive. He's sleeping on the sofa and the estranged wife is sharing the bed with her mum.

Then asked me to meet him between Christmas and new year. 😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️

Big fat nope!

IslaSkywalker · 25/12/2023 23:41

@IHateLegDay big fat liar isn't he!

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