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FWB

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Lookingforlove2022 · 21/07/2023 16:58

Having a FWB with a man, the sex is ok, he's really difficult to communicate to, I have to start off conversations, ask questions etc..., he never really asks about me.

Earns a lot of money but is really tight

If I text he responds 4-5 days later or never replies to me.... ( even after reading the message )

Obviously he does not respect me at all, so why can't I just say fuck off????

I think part of me was hoping that he would change but obviously he's not going to do so.

Not sure what I am sayingSmile

OP posts:
Don'tcallthepolice · 21/07/2023 22:23

What's FWB?

PimpMyFridge · 22/07/2023 06:32

Friend with benefits
Not much of a friend in this case though, and the benefits don't sound all that either. 😬

guineacup · 22/07/2023 07:22

It sounds like you're looking for a relationship, but decided to settle for a FWB, and ended up with an "acquaintance with scraps". Glad you deleted his number.

Bapbap45 · 22/07/2023 09:11

Lookingforlove2022 · 21/07/2023 22:06

No he's not but could it be because he's shy or is afraid of getting hurt and keeps his guard up?

Nope! Don't even go there. Don't excuse bad behaviour.

If the sex is 'ok' then it's just not worth it. FWB is really just meant to be fun. The sex should be great, and fun and if you want, adventurous. The friends part should be easy, not anxiety inducing, and respectful.

I do think FWB works if you both have it straight in your head and are clear with one another.

This seems all off, that you're worried he's scared of being hurt makes me think this type of situation might not be for you at the moment? And that's okay! Learn from it. And get rid of the shitty guy.

BluNomad · 22/07/2023 09:14

Well he’s not your friend & you’re not really getting any benefits (you said sex is ok) when I had fwb I made damn sure the sex was great otherwise what’s the point. Clearly you want more than he does so don’t waste anymore energy on him otherwise you’ll get more emotionally invested

Thisisworsethananticpated · 22/07/2023 09:45

There is better out there

maybe delete his number and contact

and never reply if he texts again wanting sex

and put it down to experience

FiddleLeaf · 22/07/2023 09:45

Lookingforlove2022 · 21/07/2023 22:06

No he's not but could it be because he's shy or is afraid of getting hurt and keeps his guard up?

Nope. This is rom com nonsense.

Cas112 · 22/07/2023 10:07

Captain1 · 21/07/2023 17:09

Sounds like he’s married

No it doesn't.. this is literally just what most men are like with FWB.. your there for sex that's it. The friends bit is usually just a farce

Mammyloveswine · 22/07/2023 10:16

If he's a FWB I'd want better sex tbh

BudgetBuster · 22/07/2023 10:22

How long were you friends before sleeping together? What was your friendship like?

newyearsresolurion · 22/07/2023 10:34

The way I know it..., it's casual sex with no string attached. So the sex is not good and you're looking for a relationship. You've got it wrong

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