Any I doing the wrong thing by reaching out

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Been dating someone for 3 months started off with dates then due to schedules (his) we meet up mostly once a week or so later in evening after his hobby

Spoke about it more than once and he said he really was untested but due to current schedule he just couldn't give more at moment

On Monday I kind of flipped out snd ended it saying he clearly wasn't interested now I'm really regretting it, I do 100% believe he likes me but it is just due to a schedule at the moment

My messages where quite ranty and I'm really struggling today to not message and say sorry

He isn't every open with his emotions so does have a hard time putting this into words

We're both mid 40's

Should I or if he's I interested will he come to me

I think you need to leave him alone.

Flipping out at someone you’ve only been dating for a few months because they’re busy with their own lives is not ok. He told you he was busy and reassured you that he was interested. If someone id been seeing for a few months went mad at me because I was busy with work or hobbies I’d never speak to them again.

If he wanted he would make time. Please don't reach out! If he's interested he'll think about it and will come back.

dating 3 months, & you have ended it, flipped out and sent him some ranty messages… yes I I think you should at least apologise about the messages.

but TBH, he is probably thinking that he as dodged a bullet there as you as shown your true self ( after 3 months)

He may be like many middle aged men ( and women) who want a partner on the side but don’t want to deprioritize their own existing hobbies and friendships.

His hobby schedule probably won’t be a one off, it will recur. If you are looking for more of a consistent time and relationship commitment he probably is not for you,

And yes, after three months meeting up once a week late at night, presumably for sex, does make it sound like he is mainly interested in something casual and sexual. Of course he says he is interested. He would be remarkably honest to say, ‘I’m just really interested in the weekly shag’ when that would mean he would lose his weekly shag.