my ex and I broke up because we were not happy with our own lives feeling down and not getting along with each other very well. It was not one persons fault and no one did anything terrible. We still love each other very much, we miss each other as best friends and have talked a lot and cleared the air and said sorry to each other about some of the things that were said or not said between us. We also talked about how things could be different and what we have learnt about ourselves and each other.
I was hopeful that this would lead onto us trying again and I asked to take it slow so we could rebuild confidence in each other. He has not ruled it out but he won’t commit to anything so I am left in a limbo as I do want to take the jump. He isn’t asking anything from me or expecting me to do anything to change his mind so I have said I will give him space and we can stop going over what has happened. I know I need to concentrate on myself and get used to being without him as he might not change his mind. I do just want him to be happy so it kills me that I don’t make him happy anymore and he is afraid of being with me. I know there isn’t anything I can do but I also can’t just wait around a long time to see if he changes his mind either as it doesn’t help me move on. He is worried that we will just go back to normal very quickly but all the same problems will come back again. He is right to worry about this I do too but I want to try and am feeling positive. I don’t know what to do or how long to wait? Does this ever work out or am I wasting my time