Older.....younger....the irony

[okiedokie1]

I keep reading or hearing 50+ yr old women saying that it's tough as men their age want to date younger..... but there is no way they themselves want to date a crusty old 60 year old man. Determined to believe that all men past a certain age are 'too old' but somehow manage to convince themselves that they are not applying the same preconceived judgement that they deem is being foisted upon them. The irony. Can they not see it?

Why is there a spate of these threads?

Have you compared the average 50yo woman to the average 60yo man? 😂

Anyway, women are not a monolith.

No, I don't see any irony. Its different women with different views .
Some women are happy to date men their own age and may complain that the only presentable ones prefer younger women.
Other women wouldn't want to date a man their own age so couldn't give too hoots if those men prefer younger women, because they wouldn't want them anyway.
Moral of the story? MN is not just one woman. There's lots of us, all with our own opinions. Who knew, eh?

It's different!
The women are saying they don't want older men. They want men their age. But feel they have to go older when they shouldn't have to.

What is ironic is that everytime there's a thread title that makes it plain a woman has been disappointed with the older men on offer, a group of older men trot over to tell older women how attractive they should find them, because they have queues of young women after them.
I mean, why are they (you) bothering to change our minds when there's queue of young lovelies to work through?

Absolutely. I’m over 50 and want to date around my own age. In fact I’d probably prefer slightly older in preference to younger.

My last partner was 5 years older than me - he certainly wasn’t ‘crusty’

Difficult to generalize as everyone has a different back story.
My ex husband left me and he was 9 years older! He's now with a woman 6 years older than me!
As for me, I thank my dear mum every day for the education she gave me, and the subsequent career that pays me well. I fancy men my age 47, or maybe upto 55 max.
Luckily financially I don't need to couple up with those men in their 60s ewww.
It is however lonely but that's the choice I guess.

My dh is 64 and certainly not crusty