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Why delete exes pics now?

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userturks · 20/07/2023 16:18

So been seeing a guy for a few months now, things been tricky due to timings and things going on in his personal life meaning he can't give me any commitment right now, due to this I decided to protect myself to end relationship until he can give me a little more r protect myself from getting hurt

Today had a quick look on Facebook and suddenly he has deleted the pictures of his ex on there (only 2 pictures) this has been done within the past few days

Just curious as to why he would do this now all of a sudden they spilt a year ago

OP posts:

Tighginn · 20/07/2023 16:44

Are you not his ex now? Why are you stalking him on Facebook, watching his ex's photos? Dating for a few months a man that told you he could not commit to you. You are behaving pretty scary.

HowAmYa · 20/07/2023 16:46

Hmm you ended the relationship.
Stop stalking his Facebook and trying to read into things.

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userturks · 20/07/2023 16:51

I'm asking a question if you don't want to answer then fine

But i over think everything and just wondered why

Yes I've ended the relationship for now, can't go into details as very outing but we are still in communication and working towards sorting everything out so we can be together

OP posts:

PooHeads · 20/07/2023 16:59

This has OW written all over it

AngelAurora · 20/07/2023 16:59

Stop stalking his Facebook, none of your concern why he has done it is it?

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 20/07/2023 17:08

It could be any number of reasons though, couldn't it. Are you hoping someone will say "He's probably done it to show he's ready to commit to you at last and he's going to ask you to try again"?

Nobody on here is going to know, you will only find out by asking him - and hoping he's truthful in his answer.

I'll tell you anecdotally from my personal experience, I've split up with one person, gone onto facebook to delete a couple of photos/statuses with them, then realised I've got other exes on there and deleted them as well.

WildUnchartedWaters · 20/07/2023 17:10

userturks · 20/07/2023 16:51

I'm asking a question if you don't want to answer then fine

But i over think everything and just wondered why

Yes I've ended the relationship for now, can't go into details as very outing but we are still in communication and working towards sorting everything out so we can be together

You are...full on, to say the least.

WildUnchartedWaters · 20/07/2023 17:10

PooHeads · 20/07/2023 16:59

This has OW written all over it

Ah!

Jongleterre · 20/07/2023 17:11

You've ended it.

Who cares what he adds or deletes on his Facebook.

Did you give off these vibes when you were seeing him as that might explain his lack of commitment.

Nottrag · 20/07/2023 17:13

Ignore the horrible posters, OP

you did the right thing by ending it

maybe it’s a coincidence

maybe he’s met someone else

just focus on yourself and move on

VeridicalVagabond · 20/07/2023 17:14

Maybe because he's now with the woman he is ready to commit to so has decided it's time to take them down. Men often have a rehearsal woman in between serious relationships.

I will never understand all this stalking of ancient Facebook posts. Who really cares?

SamW98 · 20/07/2023 17:21

None of us know why. He’s the only one who can answer that.

i can only tell you from my experience that I deleted a few photos when they came up in my memories. I’d totally forgotten they were there until then as I don’t look back at my old posts let alone anyone else’s

NoDatingFor0ldMen · 20/07/2023 17:34

Since you are now his ex, he might be looking to remove your pictures and also removed some pictures of a woman he used to date

Helpimfalling · 20/07/2023 17:34

You are looking for us to say, he deleted them because he wants to show you, he's moving on from her.
Because your hoping to get back with him....
He's told you not shown you... so believe him.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 20/07/2023 21:56

Jesus some harsh posts here

maybe he wanted a clear out and maybe he forgot they were there and they popped up

either way it’s not doing you any good ! If you can’t resist it block him for a while

it’s very mentally draining for you
and it probably doesn’t mean anything dodgy

anotheropinion · 21/07/2023 10:34

userturks · 20/07/2023 16:51

I'm asking a question if you don't want to answer then fine

But i over think everything and just wondered why

Yes I've ended the relationship for now, can't go into details as very outing but we are still in communication and working towards sorting everything out so we can be together

You have ended the relationship ... to work towards sorting everything out so you can be together. 🤔

But you can't give us any details which would help this make sense and provide understanding of the situation. So I don't think anybody here is going to be able to give you any accurate insight into what's going on inside his head.

I'm gonna take a wild guess he is confused by your action though.

mindutopia · 21/07/2023 12:36

Maybe he didn't even realise they were on there, and only just occurred to him that it's a bit odd?

Honestly, I've been happily married to dh for nearly 15 years. And I still have photos with exes on Facebook. Hadn't actually occurred to me to delete them (I'm still friends with them anyway). I wouldn't think too much into any of this.

Opentooffers · 21/07/2023 13:43

If you have not expressed any issues you have about his ex, then he has either deleted them because someone else he is seeing has, or he is just over her and doesn't feel a need to keep them anymore. Some delete when they feel they've moved on, some don't, nothing wrong with either approach.
You're question has many possible answers that nobody on here would have any better guess at answering than you do. Only your ex has the answer.
Be careful, however, while you are staying in contact with a view to picking back up when whatever he's got going on is sorted, he could be just using excuses to keep you dangling on the sidelines and use at his convenience.
If his life was so complicated, and didn't want a relationship, why was he trying with you in the first place for months?

TattoedLady · 21/07/2023 17:17

userturks · 20/07/2023 16:51

I'm asking a question if you don't want to answer then fine

But i over think everything and just wondered why

Yes I've ended the relationship for now, can't go into details as very outing but we are still in communication and working towards sorting everything out so we can be together

A: He's cleaning up his old FB account.
B: He's finally stopped cheating on his ex (he's broken off with her) and he's cleaning up his old FB account..."so you can be together".
C: None of the above (and he's your ex, so maybe just stop thinking about his FB account and find someone who doesn't have to 'sort everything out' so that you can be together).

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