Does anyone else find their intimate relationship post say something like abuse or bad divorce is different?

[Lovel2]

I look at my sister and brother in law who have been together since they were young and it’s a totally different relationship to the one I have now. I used to be like them and post things about how I couldn’t live without each other, they complete me etc etc.they look so in love, they share everything and everything they have belongs to each other.

Me on the other hand now yes I love my partner but he doesn’t complete me. I’m not hopelessly in love. If he left I’d cope fine. Nothing we have we’ve earnt together as we already had it. It feels really different and more practical. I look at the relationship as something that needs to make my life better otherwise I’m out. Is that cold?

I would say I am jealous but life has dealt me a different hand. I know how that love can change into hate and everything you’ve had together be gone. Perhaps I hold a little of myself back now. It would be nice to be a little more them but I don’t think I could invest so heavily again.

You are so right and I feel the same, although I do think a lot of those seemingly perfect marriages hide a lot of unhappiness

I feel sad that I won't ever feel again the lust and excitement and thrill of being with someone the way I felt in the early days of my relationship with my ex husband but a lot of that is to do with age and feeling of invincibility that comes with youth

I've never been someone that needed a man financially or even physically either really and my ex certainly wasn't one to lean on for emotional support so over the years I've learned to rely on only myself and if I do meet someone in the future I can't see that being any different

Some will disagree, but I think that knowing you'll be fine on your own is a good thing. Especially if you're past the first flush of youth and you children are old enough to cope if their parents split up. Either way, if you are strong enough to handle a break up with resilience and optimism, then that can only be a good thing. Imo. I'm single though. Some people think I'm missing out not having a Dave/Mike/Steve at home, just breathing in and out and occasionally able to try out a new restaurant with me.

I don't believe people's big claims on facebook either. They need acquaintances to envy them their good relationship??? Would somebody in a fulfilling relationship have that need??

I know a woman who is the opposite, she makes out her husband is some incompetent fool that she tolerates, but then when he rings, she's nice to him, laughing away. He has a revolut card that is on her phone and she says ''ah bless, poor guy is trying to buy himself a book, confirm or deny, ah gwan, I'll allow him a book''.

Ill never have that we did it together feeling or its us against the world or look how much we’ve grown together and what we’ve achieved. It’s not that I’ve not achieved or have things but I’ve suffered to get them, never through a partnership.
I think I’m just being a bit of a twat as both my brother and my brother in law have just bought new lovely big houses with their wives. They’re both been in the relationship since forever and gone from the small house to the bigger and now got their “forever homes” with the kids. I’m a bit jealous.

@N0ëlle "just breathing in and out and occasionally able to try out a new restaurant with me" made me lol.
I think more men should put that on their OLD profiles. The honesty would be a refreshing change.