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purplemini · 18/07/2023 21:35

Ok So things are bad. DH and 2DDs and I are on holiday. He and I have fallen out over something that happened at Gatwick two days ago (he was annoyed at EasyJet ground staff who wanted to check his cabin bag. I let it go at the time but he brought it up and I backed the easyJet woman) He is mad in an argument and is now booking a flight home on Thursday because he is so upset. I have no driving license so can’t drive here. What do I do?

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DustyLee123 · 18/07/2023 21:37

Tell him to get a grip and sort himself out for the rest of the holiday, for the sake of the kids.
Has he got mental health problems ?

Maddy70 · 18/07/2023 21:37

Ignore the petulant child

crispypancakeswithcheese · 18/07/2023 21:37

Tell him to grow up

Dacadactyl · 18/07/2023 21:38

Is this out of the ordinary behaviour for him? I doubt it.

Either way, I would try and convince him to stay for the ease of driving/childcare/so as not to upset the kids. I would act totally sweetie pie on holiday and then seriously reconsider the whole relationship on return home.

NotBotheredAnymore · 18/07/2023 21:40

Let him go. On your return you go see a solicitor.

Do you have enough money to get to the airport at your normal departure time, and enough for food? If so have an adventure with the kids and explore nearby.

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purplemini · 18/07/2023 21:41

Dacadactyl · 18/07/2023 21:38

Is this out of the ordinary behaviour for him? I doubt it.

Either way, I would try and convince him to stay for the ease of driving/childcare/so as not to upset the kids. I would act totally sweetie pie on holiday and then seriously reconsider the whole relationship on return home.

Yup that's what I usually do

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purplemini · 18/07/2023 21:42

DustyLee123 · 18/07/2023 21:37

Tell him to get a grip and sort himself out for the rest of the holiday, for the sake of the kids.
Has he got mental health problems ?

Actually I suggested this during our "discussion @

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Shoxfordian · 18/07/2023 21:43

Let him go and file for divorce when you return

ButterCrackers · 18/07/2023 21:45

What an idiot. He needs to grow up. He’s worse than a small kid being told off. He’s going to jet back leaving yourself and kids in a foreign country with no transport! If he does then he’s shown his true feelings for his family. Do you have family you can call to meet you at the airport when you and your kids come back and that will go with you to your house to witness what happens. Hopefully also to tell him to pack his bags and leave the house. Get legal help as well.

Niceseasidetown · 18/07/2023 21:49

I doubt he will go. He just wants to make his point, stress you out, get attention, create drama

I'd just pretend to think it's a great idea

Dacadactyl · 18/07/2023 22:07

I really wouldn't file for divorce straight away.

If (God forbid) I ever thought of a divorce I would wait until I was in the best possible position to do it. And I would be strategic in waiting it out til then.

TaigaSno · 18/07/2023 22:25

I'd tell him to think very carefully about whether he wants to ruin your children's holiday because you and he have had an argument, that if he decides to stay you expect him to make an effort to lift the mood and you will do the same so that you can all enjoy the holiday, and that if he decides to leave, knowing the children will be upset and you will presumably be stranded without him then you'll be thinking seriously about the state of your marriage.

Tiredjoanna · 18/07/2023 22:30

Hear hear

Jongleterre · 18/07/2023 22:35

What a great big baby.

Sally2791 · 18/07/2023 22:38

Play along then get rid

MissedItByThisMuch · 18/07/2023 22:46

TaigaSno · 18/07/2023 22:25

I'd tell him to think very carefully about whether he wants to ruin your children's holiday because you and he have had an argument, that if he decides to stay you expect him to make an effort to lift the mood and you will do the same so that you can all enjoy the holiday, and that if he decides to leave, knowing the children will be upset and you will presumably be stranded without him then you'll be thinking seriously about the state of your marriage.

This.

There’s no point deliberately antagonising him further while on holiday with kids. Just be calm, factual and try to defuse things and take the emotion out of conversations to get through the holiday as best you can.

Then when you get home have a serious think about whether this is how you and your kids want to live.

Newestname002 · 19/07/2023 01:06

Dacadactyl · 18/07/2023 22:07

I really wouldn't file for divorce straight away.

If (God forbid) I ever thought of a divorce I would wait until I was in the best possible position to do it. And I would be strategic in waiting it out til then.

Yes, this. 🌹

DustyLee123 · 20/07/2023 07:46

Did he stay or go ?

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