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Where to go next... OLD and LDR....

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DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 18/07/2023 16:47

Just matched with someone on Bumble last week after literally going on to delete my account - so considering him as the last person I was ever going to view :) turns out we actually knew each other as young teens as he went out with one of my friends and I was the shy friend always tagging along (12/13 years old so not exactly serious and not an issue). He's changed a fair bit so didn't immediately recognise him but he recognised me....

Been chatting pretty much non-stop and we seem to get on really well, text conversation just flows, it's a little flirty but not too much and we both seem to be enjoying getting to know more about each other.

He currently works down south but was due to start a working pattern from 31st July that meant he would be away a week and at home a week (literally 5 mins round the corner). We agreed to definitely go on a date when he's next home. However... he's just told me that this isn't starting until October now and he may not be back until then, or if he is will be a flying visit (he has kids so obviously I understand his priority would be to see them).

I'm really looking forward to seeing where this might lead... but I also don't want to appear too keen by saying let's keep talking, maybe video call, etc. before then? I've dated someone in the past in his job so completely understand the separation but I'm worried it sounds weird to suggest this? It also doesn't help that I'm travelling the majority of October so who knows when we might actually meet!

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Addictedtohotbaths · 18/07/2023 17:05

I wouldn’t waste your time investing in chatting and keeping it alive until October.
Just check in with him close to the time if you’re still keen to meet him and see if he’s also still interested. If it’s meant to be it will work out.

DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 18/07/2023 17:09

Just to add that he has literally said he will be home regularly during the summer but will be spending most of the time with the kids (understandably)

He's next back Sunday 30th and gets the kids on the Tuesday... am I being too much of a 'keen bean' if I suggest a quick coffee on the Monday??

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samestyle · 18/07/2023 18:01

If he's that keen, he will make time, ask him, I wouldn't hold out too much hope for October otherwise, besides if it's this difficult for a first date, how would it ever progress? Men that aren't available much, especially with kids in the mix are very difficult to date.

DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 18/07/2023 20:06

I think I panicked and posted this too soon… I asked him if he’d be free on that day to meet and he said he’d very much like that… phew 😮‍💨

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