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Have you ever felt like you've told people too much?

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F0Xintherain · 18/07/2023 14:25

I told some friends about what happened to me as a child, I was sexually abused. I didn't tell them all about it. Now I feel like that is all they must think when they see me. It makes me think about the abuse more. I wish I hadn't told them now but I thought it was a good idea to give them an idea of why I am the way I am sometimes.
Will this pass? I told them at the weekend

Thank you for any replies

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Iguessyourestuckwithme · 18/07/2023 14:27

Oh I trauma dump as soon as I meet a new person. I hate it and yes I then think why did I say that! My friends see me not my trauma and I'm so glad they see past this excruciating part of my personality.

I hope you're friends are real friends who will see you regardless and use it to be a little more self informed as to why you're ulyou.

Noicant · 18/07/2023 14:29

Oh yes today, I usually don’t but someone asked me a question and I’m a shit liar so told the truth and then cringed and squirmed as I tried to contextualise the answer in terms of my childhood. It’s shit isn’t it.

F0Xintherain · 18/07/2023 14:30

Do you think they wished I hadn't told them? I'm just considering apologising

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Whiteminnowfish · 18/07/2023 14:32

Don't feel like you have to apologise at all. If they are true friends they will only feel supportive to you.

I've told friends about my abuse. They will respect us for our honesty xx

F0Xintherain · 18/07/2023 15:27

Will they? Or will they think, oh god, poor woman, don't think I want that level of crap in my life

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F0Xintherain · 18/07/2023 15:27

Perhaps I am catastrophising and they will think not much of it and carry on as normal

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ButterflyBitch · 18/07/2023 15:39

I know about trauma that friends have gone though and they know about mine. I still love them and do t even think about when we are together. If they are good friends then they will want to support you but it won’t be the only thing on their minds forevermore so please don’t worry.

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