Feeling very vulnerable and broken, being used

[Babygirlmum]

I haven't been with my ex now for 18 months, we have a baby together and he left me when I was pregnant however is is back in DDs life and he's treated me badly in the past, however we still have strong feelings for each other he took me and DD out last week and asked if my mum could have her while he took me out, he hasn't taken me out since we was together so I thought this was him really trying, he took me out everything seemed perfect we was very much in love, he went home at the end of the night and we continued to talk and it was going well, on the first hurdle of a small argument he ended it all again and made me feel soo low about myself it was unreal, he makes me feel soo used, before this he was saying I was the only girl for him and he seemed very happy to he continuing stuff, he is now saying it was a mistake to his family, you can't make multiple mistakes and he said I was special to him and all sorts, what is going on with this lad as I am very vulnerable, let me are I lost my dad 4 weeks ago and he knows I'm not mentally stable at the minute.

Only you can stop him picking you up and putting you down.

You fill a gap when he's bored, he knows he only has to put in the smallest effort "you are the only girl for me" and you come running.

Honestly OP, I would get tough, he only needs to be a dad to your child. So he needs to have regular contact and regular maintenance payments. If he doesn't steo up, for a while, like a whole year consistent at the very least, until then tell him and mean it you are not interested. Then you will know if he us serious or not.

You said it yourself - he's using you because you let him. Time to get angry and only communicate with him about your child, and let him know you are not his booty call when he's got nothing else to do.

Talk is cheap. He can tell you all sorts of things you might want to hear, but his behavior isn’t adding up to what he’s saying. This means what he’s saying is bull. Don’t fall for this, he’s just using you for what he wants, when he wants. Don’t go down the romantic route with him again.

I feel so weak as I have fallen into his trap again, this time seemed different as he treated me really well and I obviously enjoyed being treated good and then he just turns on me again at my most vulnerable and lowest time of my life, we have both been with people after each other and always seem to go back to each other and can't seem to get over each other but this time is different as I have told his family what he's done, I am really hurt by this.