Is he romantically interested in me?

[mariad89]

Will try not to drip feed..
Have been friends with a lovely guy for a few years. We get on great and really like each other's company. Lots of shared interests and similar outlooks.
We meet every couple of months (we don't live near each other and work makes it hard to see each other as often as we'd like).
Both single, in our 40s.
We message every day and chat on the phone couple of times each week.
In recent messages he's been asking me (wording slightly different each time) whether I hope to be in a new relationship one day (history of failed relationships for me). I've been single a few years since last one (before we met).
He's said he finds me very attractive and finds himself liking me more each time we meet in person.
I feel the same way about him but have no idea how to proceed or how to raise the subject next time we meet in person. We're going to a concert in a couple of weeks and will spend a couple of days together in the city where the concert its. Should I wait to see if he brings it up?

I would wait to see if he brings it up.

Hi @mariad89 i would wait for him to bring it up. From what he's been saying i think he will definitely say something.
Hope things work out for you both xx

Man here - it's pretty clear he does; I think he's waiting for you to reciprocate in some way. If he's said he finds himself liking you more, you'll need to give him something back.
Good luck!

I don't think he could have made it any more obvious really. Enjoy your weekend!

Come on OP, he's pretty much spelt it out. Enjoy your weekend away!

I think unless you’re expecting him to get out the semaphore flags he’s giving you pretty clear signals!

What’s the sleeping arrangements while you’re away? Could you use that as a way of checking? Or is that too forward?!

“Man here - it's pretty clear he does; I think he's waiting for you to reciprocate in some way. If he's said he finds himself liking you more, you'll need to give him something back. Good luck!”

This. I mean - I’m not a man but I think he’s made himself pretty clear and he now needs some encouragement from you so the ball is now in your court. How do you respond when he says those things? Are you encouraging him at all or shutting him down?

You can probably wait till the trip since it’s coming up soon but I really think you need to take the initiative instead of waiting for him to bring it up again. Eons ago I failed to do that with a guy I had been crazy about for some time and after he had given me lots of encouragement. I let shyness get in the way - and missed the boat. Someone less shy than me snapped him up. If you really like this guy - don’t let that be you.

Thanks for all the replies :)
Well, when he said he finds himself liking me more and more each time we meet, that was in an email (rather than face to face). I did give him something back, it said something along the lines of "I really like you too.." So, he knows I like him. Usually I'm quite shy so just trying to make sure I handle things right next time we meet for the concert. Staying with his cousin for the weekend of the concert, although the cousin will be at work most of the time from what he says.

He seems like a nice guy. He's letting you know he likes you and appears to be doing so in a very respectful manner.

I think he's looking for a bit of encouragement at this stage so that he doesn't make things awkward or make a fool of himself. In fairness to you, you responded perfectly. He will probably raise it again when you meet.

Definitely sounds like he's interested. The British way to get things started is to get drunk and then get off with each other. This is how all my relationships have started!

Lol, youve both been pussy-footing around on this for years by the look of it. That is some backwards in coming forwards between you. Looks like you might get there in the end, he's waited a long time for you to notice.

Absolutely this! Alcohol and snogs, it’s how every great relationship starts

Keep us posted please OP!